{"id":14069,"date":"2015-03-08T17:49:37","date_gmt":"2015-03-08T16:49:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=14069"},"modified":"2015-03-08T17:49:37","modified_gmt":"2015-03-08T16:49:37","slug":"should-we-really-tell-our-partner-everything","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/should-we-really-tell-our-partner-everything\/","title":{"rendered":"SHOULD WE REALLY TELL OUR PARTNER EVERYTHING?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hello everyone, welcome to this Sunday\u2019s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/span><\/p>\n

Today we would be discussing honesty; how honest should we really be in a relationship? Telling your partner everything means you\u2019re totally honest with your partner, but is that really a good thing per se? Does it come with some side effects or is it totally beneficial to the relationship?<\/p>\n

This seems to be a very technical one, but let\u2019s see what Drama and Shawn have in mind about this.<\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

Should I tell my partner everything? I asked myself that question, and the first answer I gave myself was \u201cof course, I should\u201d. Then I asked myself the same question but turning it around a little: \u2018do I tell my partner everything?\u2019 I answered honestly \u201cno, I don\u2019t\u201d.<\/p>\n

Telling your partner everything means you are totally honest with your partner; likewise, not telling that person every single thing doesn\u2019t mean you are dishonest\u2026 I would explain. Let\u2019s say as a man you invite your lady home for the first (a lady you truly love and care about), and your mum tells you in private that your lady wouldn\u2019t make a good wife for you, citing irrelevant and flimsy reasons \u2013 the next day, your lady asks you what your mum thought of her, what would be your response? Would you tell her everything just because you\u2019ve heard somewhere that you should tell your partner everything? Telling her everything in this case would hurt her and probably hurt your relationship as well \u2013 so what then do you do?<\/p>\n

There is a bit of contradiction to this; this isn\u2019t really a question that you just answer \u2018yes\u2019 or \u2018no\u2019 just because you want to \u2013 it\u2019s quite bigger than that.<\/p>\n

Telling your partner of an ex is also not relevant especially when you have nothing with that person anymore; you could only ignite jealousy in that partner of yours and that could create a problem where there isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Your close friend describes your man as ugly; should you go on to tell your man just because you feel \u2018you should say everything\u2019? Especially when you know that would hurt.<\/p>\n

Total honesty should be encouraged in a relationship, but it\u2019s a matter of relevancy.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Drama\u2019s opinion<\/b><\/p>\n

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Drama<\/b><\/p>\n

It depends on they sort of partner in question. If you’re talking about a marriage partner, then my answer to the question is a big ‘yes’ because marriage is an enormous union. It goes beyond having sex and children; It’s about literally sharing everything, and absolute trust as well. The moment you take the vow to marry someone, you also make a vow to offer them yourself in exchange for their own self. That includes their blessings and burdens, so there is no room whatsoever for secrecy. Whatever goes on in your life, your partner should know \u2014 how much you make, where you work, what you do and more. It is their marital right to. Besides, unless you open up, there is no way they can proffer solutions and advice when you need them. Hiding anything from your spouse shows the absence of trust and lack of respect for them\u2014and if that is the case, then, maybe you should not have married them in the first place because you’re missing one of the very standards of marriage which is to honour your spouse. You dishonour them by holding back things from them. So yes, it is a matter of obligation for you to tell your partner everything.<\/p>\n

Outside marriage though, I wouldn’t advise anyone to divulge just any information to their partner, and the reason is simple \u2013 you are just dating them, and not married to them. No matter how good the relationship may seem, you can never be so sure where it\u2019s going\u2014 anything can happen at any time. And there are all sorts of people out there; you can decide to quit the relationship tomorrow, and they turn around to blackmail you with the same information you gave them. I’ve heard of cases leaked nudes that came as a result of bad break up. Things like that make it ill-advised for one to be careless with certain information about themselves. You can tell your lover stuffs, but know where to draw the line. My 2 cents.<\/p>\n

Do you tell your partner everything? I mean everything?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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