{"id":12900,"date":"2015-01-11T14:58:57","date_gmt":"2015-01-11T13:58:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/?p=12900"},"modified":"2015-01-11T14:58:57","modified_gmt":"2015-01-11T13:58:57","slug":"should-the-number-of-men-she-has-slept-with-matter","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.elcrema.com\/should-the-number-of-men-she-has-slept-with-matter\/","title":{"rendered":"SHOULD THE NUMBER OF MEN SHE HAS SLEPT WITH MATTER?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Hello everyone, welcome to today’s segment of Elcrema Sunday Love Special; an interactive session in which we get to discuss topics about anything bordering on relationships.<\/p>\n

This is our first segment of this column of the year, so we say happy New Year to everyone who has been a follower of this segment.<\/p>\n

Our discussion on today’s episode of Elcrema Sunday Love Special is; does it really matter if she’s been with nobody, just one man or a thousand men?<\/p>\n

Men are naturally promiscuous, but when it comes down to settling down with a lady, they would prefer being with a lady who really hasn’t had much men in her life.<\/p>\n

Drama and I (Shawn) would share our views on the matter, and we would also love to know what the men think.<\/p>\n

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Drama <\/b><\/p>\n

Hello guys, it’s the very first edition of Sunday love special for this year, so before I proceed to the day’s topic, I want to say a very happy new year to you all our loyal fans and followers. Thank you for your support last year and I hope you have a far better 2015.<\/p>\n

Now, to the topic of the day, I think to a certain degree, it does matter how many people were there before you in your partner’s life. I mean, come on, we are all humans, and no one can say they don’t care \u2014 unless of course, your feelings for the person isn’t genuine. No one man wants to end up with a girl who’s been used and dumped by every Dick and Harry around. And no right-thinking woman wants to end up with the neighbourhood womanizer as her man for obvious reasons.<\/p>\n

First of all, the issue of respect and pride has to be considered. You want to be with someone you can introduce to friends and family confidently without having to worry about her smeared reputation. Someone you can be with and not be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Secondly, there’s always a feeling of insecurity that comes with dating or marrying someone like that. No matter how much your love for them, you’ll always feel like they could cheat on you or they’re not fully changed. So, I think that yeah, it does matter to an extent, how many partners they had before you. But of course, love always conquers all. You can get around anything if there’s love and understanding between two people.<\/p>\n

Click below to read Shawn\u2019s opinion in the next page <\/b><\/p>\n

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Shawn <\/b><\/p>\n

On a personal basis, I think society has played a fast one on women, as it seems absolutely okay for a man to have as many women as he can and still play saint and even be the judge or rather point accusing fingers at women who haven’t even clocked close to his figures.<\/p>\n

On a personal basis, I might also view a woman who has been with a large number of men with a sentimental eye because of the way society has directly or indirectly instilled that mentality in us; but in reality, it shouldn’t be so.<\/p>\n

Marrying a virgin is not an assurance that she wouldn’t cheat on you in the future, same as being with a woman who was once promiscuous.<\/p>\n

What matters most is the present; if she’s still promiscuous then it matters a lot, but if she has changed from her past life then it absolutely doesn’t matter. Sometimes we tend to use the past to judge a person rather than the present. A man once told me that what a lady has done in the past should remain in the past, and what should really matter to the man is what she’s doing in the present.<\/p>\n

Also, a lot has to depend on the man; if he cannot forget the past then he cannot, there should be no reason forcing it. If he can’t let go of the fact that she’s been with someone else before settling down with her then he\u2019s probably made a mistake of settling down with her, because you wouldn’t have enough trust in that marriage\/relationship, and you would tend to base everything on a non-existent past.<\/p>\n

One huge question I’d love to ask is; \u2018what really is the acceptable number of men a woman must have been with before deciding she’s worth settling down with?\u2019<\/p>\n

A careful observation would show you that most men who tend to dwell on what a lady has done in the past are actually the kind of men who have done a lot with many women and are probably still promiscuous.<\/p>\n

Final words \u2014 choose a lady because you love her for who she is in the present not because of who she was in the past.<\/p>\n

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That\u2019s our take on today\u2019s segment of Elcrema Sunday Love Special.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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