He was supposed to be the best thing that happened to her. She was so excited planning the wedding as she couldn’t wait for the big day to arrive. As she looked at him when they said their marriage vows, she knew deep inside of her that she had the best man in the world.
Five years later, she is cheating on the same man she adored. Yes, the same man who made her smile; the same man she couldn’t wait to wear his ring. So what really changed?
According to The Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, nearly 50 percent of married women and 60 percent of married men will have an extramarital affair at some point in their marriage.
AshleyMadison.com is a popular site used by people in marriages who are trying to cheat. The site receives 120 million visitors monthly, a figure that shows a lot of people are cheating on their partners. So now we know why lots of people are cheating on their partner, we need to explore why these people cheat?
Many women that cheat would still tell you they love their husbands so why are they cheating if they really do love their husbands? Commitment and loyalty are two traits people who really love someone has. Could it be they stopped loving their husbands but still think they do?
Most women that cheat on their husbands don’t want to leave the marriage even though they are cheating. They have a financially stable home with kids they adore, so leaving their marriage isn’t an option to them.
Most women who cheat complain of lack of passion and effort by their husbands. When a man wants a woman, he puts in so much effort to get her but when she becomes his wife, he stops. The problem with him stopping is that a woman still longs to be desired by her man just the way he desired her when he was wooing her.
Many men are not really prepared for marriage as they think putting a ring in her finger and providing for their wives is where it ends when you get married. Please don’t get me wrong, I am not in support of women cheating but I also don’t want men to push them to that point too.
Every man needs to understand that his wife wants to be desired just the way he desired her in the beginning. She longs for it always. Having lots of money in the bank doesn’t make a man ready for marriage but his ability to invest in his marriage for the long-term means he is ready.
The sad truth is that many women who cheat are really not looking at starting a new relationship, but they were instead filling their needs to be desired and wanted by a man.
Marriage isn’t dating and men should know this. Marriage requires concerted effort and investment in each other. Every man and woman should be ready to do this if they want to get married or simply just remain single.
While it’s in the DNA of some women to cheat no matter what, most married women who cheat do so to be desired, seduced and connected with a man, things their man stopped giving them.
Men should understand that their wives want to be desired by them. They want to be seen first as that woman they can’t do without. Don’t just see your wife as the mother of your kids, she deserves more. Don’t stop desiring her and don’t stop bringing passion and putting effort into your marriage so you don’t push her to that point where she finds herself cheating.
For those that cheat, I still insist cheating is never the solution but the beginning of more problems.
Lets create a loving home devoid of cheating.
ViV