Marriage could be the best thing that could happen in your life and could also be the worst thing you would ever experience if not done at the right time.
I was drawn to a recent comment by a reader asking when the right time is to get married. That’s a very important question but it isn’t one that should be answered in a hurry. Such a question is one that has so many answers coming together to give the perfect answer.
So many things influences when the right time for marriage actually is and the right time could differ from person to person, no matter their age. I would share some of the necessary things to consider to really know it’s the right time.
1. WHEN YOU MEET THE RIGHT PARTNER
Meeting the right person would go a long way in determining the success or failure of your marriage. You might love the wrong person and end up having a marriage that would be marred with unhappiness, violence and regrets. Marriage is a bigger deal than a mere relationship; falling in love isn’t just the ultimate but falling in love with the right partner.
2. WHEN YOU ARE READY FOR RESPONSIBILITIES
Like I mentioned earlier, marriage is a bigger deal than relationships, it comes with a host of responsibilities. The man has a role to play, the woman has a role to play as well, and playing those roles effectively comes with massive responsibilities; grooming your children and being a good role model to them is also a big responsibility and if you aren’t ready for these responsibilities, you would be put under pressure and your marriage could crash afterwards.
3. WHEN YOU’RE SURE OF YOUR FEELINGS
You just have to be sure of your feelings. I always tell people that love and lust are two identical twins that can’t be separated at first viewing. You have to be sure that you are really in love and not in lust, you have to be sure that you can still look at your partner in the next twenty years and be proud that you married such a partner, you have to be sure that you aren’t going into the marriage for wrong and selfish reasons.
4. WHEN YOU ARE MATURE ENOUGH
Relationships need maturity to be successful; however, marriage needs a higher level of maturity to pass through the rough patches that you may encounter. To be a faithful partner needs a higher level of discipline and maturity; to be an understanding and tolerant partner needs maturity. Everything about a successful marriage has a lot to do with maturity.
5. WHEN YOUR MIND IS MADE UP WITHOUT PRESSURE
Life is filled with different kinds of pressures and different pressures for different reasons. Marital pressure is one of those common pressures people face in life. I must reiterate marriage isn’t something someone should be pressured into. When you are pressured into it, it could be a ditch; you have to be ready yourself and not because the society pressures you into marriage. After all, the same society would castigate and probably criticise you if your marriage fails. So never walk into the trap of pressure, walk into marriage when your mind tells you that you are ready.
6. WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS READY TOO
You are ready when your partner is ready; you shouldn’t get married to a partner that isn’t ready to be married to you yet, the chance that the marriage could crash is quite high. You have to be ready and your partner has to be ready too, else the outcome might not really be favourable.
These things and a host of others go a long way in determining you are ready. A happy marriage should be the motivation for marriage, not just getting married for unwholesome reasons. Don’t jump into a ship that you don’t know the captain.