I’ve seen so many people give so many excuses for doing something stupid and then blame it on love. Love has taken a whole lot of things; lies, deceit and all manner of things. But my question today is “what’s love got to do with it?”
As I listen to Grammy awards winning Rock n Roll star Tina Turner’s hit track of the 80’s “what’s love got to do with it” I begin to ask myself so many questions. I think I should share them with you.
There have been so many incidences of domestic violence; men hitting women isn’t a new thing. Even in normal relationships, men do hit women but women kind of take it as a normal thing. It’s really crazy, I’m really 100% against hitting a woman; it’s ill-mannered, shows you lack home training, shows you are less than a man and lack self-control which is a basic character for every real man. Hitting a woman shows anything but love but still women most times use love as an excuse to still be in that relationship. I’ve previously done a topic on why women love a violent man and it revealed a lot. Hitting a woman has nothing to do with love. Tina Turner was a big victim of domestic violence with her ex-husband and music partner Ike Turner and after her divorce, she released this hit track “what’s love got to do with it”. Really, I do share her pain and pains of all women that has been through this issue and even the ones going through it right now; but what’s love got to do with it? What’s love got to do with a man hitting a woman? What’s love got to do with a woman enduring abuse from a man?
I see people double date; not just guys but ladies as well and they put it all on love and it gets me confused. How can you be in love with two people? It’s better to have ordinary flings than deceive two people at the same time that you love them. Double dating just shows that you are a cheat; you just want to eat your cake and have it. It’s a sign that you are unserious and just someone that’s not only deceiving others but deceiving yourself as well. Don’t blame your act on love; what’s love got to do with it?
I hate when men cheat; married men especially; it’s such a disgusting act. You meet a woman and tell her you are in love; you tell her that you can’t do without her and then you both get married. She dedicates her time and her life to you, she trusts you with everything, you even have kids with her but you are still bold enough to cheat on her and when you are caught, you still tell her that you love her and she should forgive you. Deep down you know that you are only asking for forgiveness because you were caught; if she didn’t catch you cheating, you wouldn’t even be sorry. But I have a question for you brother; what’s love got to do with it? Why do you use love as a lame excuse for your blemishes; really, what’s love got to do with it?
Now on to the women, they just can’t keep it cool in that marriage or relationship. They can’t be the submissive and caring woman that they ought to be. They indirectly chase their man out of their lives, some men get scared of going home every day because of the kind of wife they have, and some men’s blood pressure has risen just because of the troubles of their wives. And when the man dies of high B.P or file for a divorce, they cry and say they love him. But I got a question for them, what’s love got to do with it? What’s love got to do with all the troubles they give to their man? What’s love got to do with all the meaningless arguments and fights?
Now this one is for the men, they are married but still go after young girls; most especially the ones in the university. They lavish their hard-earned money on young girls but still won’t do same on their wife. At home the story is that he doesn’t have money but when he’s with the girl he does stuffs with outside his marriage, it’s another game plan entirely. When asked, he would claim to love the young girl; but I got a question for you sir; what’s love got to do with it?
Now this is to the ladies that leave a guy that they were dating just because he isn’t rich. They leave for a wealthy guy who probably doesn’t even care half as much as the poorer guy does care. You don’t have the patience to work up the ladder with him, you need a short cut, and you can’t even make something happen for yourself. The guy you left is heartbroken and jaded; you made him feel less than a man for money’s sake and when asked why you left, you say you love the wealthy guy. But I got a question for you; what’s love got to do with it? What does love have to do with money? What does love have to do with the heartbreak? What does love have to do with your impatience? What does love have to do with your selfishness?
Now to the young player, you think you’re smooth enough and the world is under your feet; you have suave. You promise a girl you love her crazy and can’t do without her; she believes you and you are happy. You both have s*x and she becomes pregnant; then you bail out on her. I have one question for you “what’s love got to do with it?”
Or to you men that promise women love and marriage, you date them for years, make them believe that it’s either them or no one else; and they believe you. You date them for years and then you bail out of their lives all of a sudden. You leave her heartbroken and wounded; I got just one question for you bro; what’s love got to do with it?
The word love has been misused by a whole lot of people; it has been bastardised and its meaning has been made worthless. People don’t even believe in it anymore. Violence erupts everywhere and some say it’s because of the love for their religion, love for their community, and love for their country. I don’t know what to say but ask what love got to do with it?
In the words of Tina Turner as she reveals how hurt she was, she asked what love has got to do with it. She described love as a second-hand emotion, as a sweet old-fashioned notion. She was hurt; the kind of violence she faced from her man was crazy and he still claimed to love her. She asked; who needs a heart when a heart can be broken. As I write this piece while playing Tina Turner’s “what’s love got to do with it”, so many scenes play in my head as well as so many questions. I end this piece by saying before you do anything, before you take any action, just ask yourself this question; what’s love got to do with it?
Shawn