SHOULD WE REALLY TELL OUR PARTNER EVERYTHING?

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Hello everyone, welcome to this Sunday’s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special.

Today we would be discussing honesty; how honest should we really be in a relationship? Telling your partner everything means you’re totally honest with your partner, but is that really a good thing per se? Does it come with some side effects or is it totally beneficial to the relationship?

This seems to be a very technical one, but let’s see what Drama and Shawn have in mind about this.

 

Shawn

Should I tell my partner everything? I asked myself that question, and the first answer I gave myself was “of course, I should”. Then I asked myself the same question but turning it around a little: ‘do I tell my partner everything?’ I answered honestly “no, I don’t”.

Telling your partner everything means you are totally honest with your partner; likewise, not telling that person every single thing doesn’t mean you are dishonest… I would explain. Let’s say as a man you invite your lady home for the first (a lady you truly love and care about), and your mum tells you in private that your lady wouldn’t make a good wife for you, citing irrelevant and flimsy reasons – the next day, your lady asks you what your mum thought of her, what would be your response? Would you tell her everything just because you’ve heard somewhere that you should tell your partner everything? Telling her everything in this case would hurt her and probably hurt your relationship as well – so what then do you do?

There is a bit of contradiction to this; this isn’t really a question that you just answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’ just because you want to – it’s quite bigger than that.

Telling your partner of an ex is also not relevant especially when you have nothing with that person anymore; you could only ignite jealousy in that partner of yours and that could create a problem where there isn’t.

Your close friend describes your man as ugly; should you go on to tell your man just because you feel ‘you should say everything’? Especially when you know that would hurt.

Total honesty should be encouraged in a relationship, but it’s a matter of relevancy.

Click below to read Drama’s opinion

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1 Comment on "SHOULD WE REALLY TELL OUR PARTNER EVERYTHING?"

  1. I support the idea of Shawn!
    b/c there should be a bit boundary!

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