This is one question many people are faced with today. You split with your ex months back or even years back and he or she wants you back and you don’t just know what to do. You are worried you might end up like you guys did the last time and I understand that.
There is no definite answer to this question. Some people reunite after years of being separated and they enjoy a good relationship together afterwards. Others struggle in the relationship after they make up.
The first question to ask yourself is, ‘’are you still attracted to your ex?’’ If the attraction is no longer there, there is no point trying. If you both still feel something for each other, then it’s worth trying again but this alone shouldn’t be the only reason you make up.
You need to be honest with yourself and ask why the relationship ended in the first place. If you don’t know why you broke up, the possibility of breaking up again is very high. When you know why you broke up, then you can ask yourself if the reasons can still cause another breakup.
Sometimes what mattered most in the past might not matter anymore now so there is the possibility what caused the breakup in the past might not break you guys now. It happens to everyone, things that we feel are significant might stop being significant as we mature.
The way you felt after the breakup should be considered too. If you were deeply hurt and couldn’t handle the break up, are you really ready to go through that again if the relationship doesn’t work. You need to be sincere with yourself when you answer this question.
You also need to understand your partner will not be the way he or she was before you broke up. They must have had another relationship after yours and it might affect how they see things in this relationship.
What caused the breakup? You need to be frank and answer this question. The cause of the breakup must be addressed if you must consider going back.
It’s best you start as friends and see how things go from there. This way you can see things clearly and know if it is worth going back to. The truth is you can analyze from now till tomorrow and still break up again after going back. You can also go back without analyzing and still have a successful relationship. It all depends on the both of you.
Jake