Love can be a very difficult emotion to control, I get that. That is why we sometimes find ourselves trying too hard and willing to go to any length to impress and get the attention of those we’re attracted to. But does it always work that way? Well, not in my experience. There may be a few exceptions, but as far as I know, when you try too hard to impress a woman, you lose value. Of course, she’ll notice you, but she wouldn’t appreciate your person and worth, and because of that your chances of being successful in your attempt to woo her become limited.
Women are special beings, so to get their attention, as a man, you too got to be special in your approach. There are DOs and DON’Ts of trying to get a woman’s attention both on and off social media (on, for the purpose of this post), and unless you follow them, you may end up with more humiliation than you ever could have Imagined. Check out some of the things you just cannot do while trying to get that woman’s attention on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Whatsapp, BBM, dating sites or any other social media platform.
1. DO NOT BE ALL UP IN HER FACE.
You want her to notice you, but not as an overly desperate fellow. Being all up in her social media platforms, liking her every picture, dropping comments on each and texting her every half hour is not an ideal way to go about telling a woman you want her. Yes, it does appear like the right thing to do, but it actually isn’t because it makes you seem like a sucker for love and attention. Women do not like men who beg for attention. It is not manly, and usually gives them the impression that men like that lack confidence. So all they do to men like that is ignore them until they (the men) eventually get tired and move on.
2. DON’T TEXT HER FIRST EVERY TIME.
Women like to be chased because there are a lot of men who are willing to jump on a ride and give them the pleasure, so if they notice that this one man is different from the pack, they’ll quickly pick up interest in him. I’m not saying you shouldn’t start a conversation first with a woman you find attractive, because that would be stupid. However, it would even be more stupid to be the first to text her every time without a reciprocation. Text her first sometimes, then ignore her for a while. If she ever liked you, she’ll miss you and text you first. And if she doesn’t, you’d just have to move on and look elsewhere. There is no sense in texting a woman every time without her ever even trying to check on you just once.
3. DON’T BE TOO DIRECT.
You want to pass a message to her that you kind of like her, but you must be careful not to be too direct in making your point, because it may either make you seem like you have no game or you are too eager. Instead of going on her picture to comment, ‘you are beautiful’, try something like ‘nice pic’. That way, you not only sound mature and confident, you also get to tell her that you like her. And if it were on a more private platform like Whatsapp or BBM, never try to profess your feelings for a woman you have not met. Set up a date, and tell her to her face whatever it is you want to say.
4. DON’T BE A PEST.
I’ve seen situations where a guy texts a girl on Whatsapp or BBM, gets ignored, and he continues to text her. That is wrong and unhealthy for the mind. If a girl ignores your messages, it’s a clear indication that she’s not feeling you, so move on to the next! By continuing to text her, you waste your precious time, kill your ego even more and give her the opportunity to make fun of you.
So guys, always know what to say, when to say it and how you say it to a woman. Know where to draw the line and move on to save yourself from possible embarrassment and a loss of ego. Every man is special, and there’s always someone for everybody. It may not be her, but it may be the next.