A happy marriage is a product of a happy couple. You can’t have one without putting in efforts towards that purpose. Having a happy partner of course is a direct consequence of what you do and don’t. As much as you can’t avoid mistakes because you’re human, we must always try to be on the safer side. Here are things that you should avoid as a married person to continue to enjoy peace in that marriage.
DON’T DENY YOUR MAN SEX
There’s no excuse for cheating or breaking the marital vow, but denying your man sex could drive him to that point. He probably won’t keep a woman outside, but he could decide to hook up with a brothel just that one time to satisfy himself. It exposes you to all sorts, and could cause bigger damage to your marriage. So it doesn’t matter how sad you think you are, I think it makes more sense to allow it go away, and go on loving your partner than holding on to it and hitting your relationship in the long run. Even if you want to punish him for an offence, you don’t have to deny him sex too long. A day should be enough for him to learn his lessons.
LACK OF RESPECT
It doesn’t matter if you earn more money or not, or maybe you’re taller or bigger, a man is still a man. Not trying to be chauvinistic, but males have an ego that has to be fed always. The moment a man feels slighted, he might look for that respect elsewhere. According your man enough respect doesn’t diminish yours in anyway. It’s just a way of showing you appreciate and hold him in high esteem. I am an advocate of equality, but I also believe that the male ego is bigger than that of the woman, so it must be fed always.
DON’T BASE YOUR LOVE AND RESPECT ON MONEY
The time you love your husband shouldn’t be only when he puts a lot of money in your hands, and supplies your needs because things are never permanent. Sometimes, he’ll have a lot to give, other times, he won’t. Love him just as much regardless. Women who love because of money don’t take long before they’re ousted from the marriage or relationship.
Finally, I’ll say it’s important to understand the kind of man you have. Communication is vital, and you have to agree on things like taking care of the kids, and how punishment measures should be meted. Some men don’t appreciate their children being manhandled or abused in the form of punishment for wrongdoing, but proper communication would allow for easier agreement as to what should work for the two of you. Also little decisions like what school to take the kids to shouldn’t be made without his consent.