Every time I’m asked how to identify a man with genuine intentions, my answer has always been the same, “pay attention to his attitude and behavior towards you”. It’s that simple.
He can scream it all he wants to, it doesn’t matter if he wouldn’t reflect the same in his behavior. Talk is cheap, it’s the real thing that counts. So no matter how confused you could be about a man’s true feelings towards you are, just give it time, and watch his attitude. If it’s genuine, it’ll show, if he’s not, it’ll show as well. It could take a while, but time reveals everything in the end.
So while you’re being patient, be sure to observe his behavior for the following…
HE ACTUALLY LISTENS
The man who loves you as truly as he says would not pretend to listen, but would actually hear you, understand what you say, what you think and give answers accordingly. More often than not in relationships, conversations are an exchange of words in which you wait for your turn to speak again, but with this person isn’t like that.
HE WOULDN’T PUSH YOU TO DO THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO
Love isn’t selfish or forceful. Most of the time, we realise that guys in a relationship want to boss their woman around. If she doesn’t do as they want her to, she’s not a good one, but what about what she wants? Does he consider you at all? If he doesn’t support you, and give you space to thrive and grow, he’s bad for you.
HE’S NOT ALL ABOUT ‘SEXUAL’ YOU
Some men will claim to be mad about you when it’s the sex with you they’re mad about. They’ll call you every night to remind you how great you are in bed, but not how great your ambition or goals are. They’ll not call during the day because perhaps they have friends or a girlfriend around at that time. Why waste your time with a man like this? You deserve better!
YOU DON’T GET AS MUCH AS YOU GIVE
In some relationships, the woman gives everything, and the man receives without hesitation. He can’t be the one receiving always, and never giving back and claim to love you. It’s exploitation at its peak. Love is giving going both ways. If he has no job, what is he visibly doing to change that? Don’t be used; get you a man who appreciates you enough to splash it out on you. I’m not saying love for money, but don’t be loved for it either.
YOUR FEELINGS COUNT
What sort of a relationship is it when a man doesn’t think about his woman’s feelings, doesn’t consult her before taking decisions, and doesn’t ask for her opinions on issues. Does he even ask to know how you’re doing?
And these are the signs of genuine love summed up. If he doesn’t reflect any of those in his attitude, you shouldn’t be wasting your time on him.