A relationship should take you forward and not backward, and while I’m not of the opinion that every relationship ought to lead to marriage, I’m of the opinion that every relationship should have a future in mind. There’s a stage you’d get to as a man or woman, and you just shouldn’t be in a relationship for the fun of it; there ought to be a form of commitment to that relationship, and the relationship ought to be heading somewhere.
If your relationship isn’t heading anywhere, but revolving around a circle, then you ought to quit.
These are some signs that it’s time to start asking yourself serious questions about where that relationship is going.
1. IT DOESN’T HAVE A FUTURE IN VIEW
If the relationship is only centred on the present and it never grows from that level, then you need to have a rethink of where that relationship is heading. A relationship ought to grow beyond a certain point, but if you are still at the same point after months and years of dating, then you need to re-evaluate that relationship.
2. YOU ARE BOTH ON DIFFERENT PAGES
If you both want different things from the relationship and are heading in different directions, then you ought to question where that relationship is heading. If there is no common interest, then that relationship isn’t going anywhere, and if you force it to get somewhere, it’ll definitely crash.
3. THE RELATIONSHIP IS ONE-SIDED
A one-sided relationship will never stand the test of time. For a relationship to head in the right direction, both partners ought to be fully committed. If the relationship is one-sided, you need to start asking yourself questions.
4. YOU CAN’T EVEN SORT THINGS OUT
If at the relationship level, you and your partner can’t sort things out, then imagine how more difficult it would be when you eventually get married. If your relationship is a bed of stone, then you to reevaluate.
5. YOU DON’T KNOW YOUR PLACE
When you don’t know your place in your partner’s life, then you ought to be careful of continuing in that relationship, or else you could get heartbroken. You should know where you stand in your partner’s life.
6. YOU ARE A SECRET LOVER
Are you a secret lover? A side chic? The number two man? And you’re hoping for a future in that relationship? You need to start telling yourself the truth – that relationship isn’t for you.
Have you analysed your relationship and asked yourself where it is heading?
Shawn