Shawn
No one appreciates being cheated on; no one enters a relationship or marriage to get cheated upon. But we can’t deny that these things happen.
Cheating on your partner goes against everything a relationship stands for, irrespective of whether you got caught or not. To some people, as far as they don’t get caught then it’s okay, but it never is okay. Cheating is an act of selfishness and a betrayal of trust.
Back to the subject of telling your partner or keeping it a secret. I believe you should tell your partner if you’ve truly repented of your cheating ways and you are sorry for your act. True repentance comes with confession and apologies — anything other than this is half-baked.
You might say that you could lose your partner if you reveal your cheating ways, but there are two ways to look at this. First, what if your partner finds out later on? Your partner would definitely be pissed and might never forgive you. Secondly, you’ve already broken your vows to stay true to your partner, so it all depends on your partner to forgive you or not; it shouldn’t be you forgiving yourself by keeping secret of things you shouldn’t have done in the first place.
I know many wouldn’t agree with my view of revealing your secret sin to your partner, but if you truly have repented of it then your partner has to know, and it’s up to your partner to forgive you or not. Whether your partner knows of your act or not, cheating is a betrayal of trust.
That’s our take on today’s edition of Elcrema Sunday Love Special; would you tell your partner?