HOW READY ARE YOU FOR A RELATIONSHIP? 9 SIGNS YOU AREN’T READY

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People jump into relationships without knowing if they are ready to have a relationship or not. The term ‘relationship’ just seems to be a good idea that people buy into without grasping that a relationship goes beyond those four words ‘I’m in a relationship’.

If you aren’t ready for a relationship and you actually venture into one, it would never work out well and it could end up being a nightmare.

You might be wondering how one cannot be ready for a relationship or how to know if you are not ready for a relationship. Being ready for a relationship isn’t just about your feelings and emotions leading you to a relationship; it doesn’t end there, it starts with your feelings for a relationship partner and continues with your maturity or emotional preparedness to actually have that relationship.

9 signs you aren’t ready for a relationship:

1. SELF

Me, I, myself shows just one person —you, and it shows you aren’t ready for a relationship. A relationship should never be just about you; you should treat your partner just as you treat yourself, but when you think only of yourself and yourself alone then it shows you aren’t ready for a relationship.

2. YOU HOLD BACK A LOT

You can’t hold back a lot from your partner and still call it a relationship. Some people hold back their emotions and their feelings and prefer to ply the safe option. There is no safe option as regards this —life itself is a risk and relationship is as well risky—if you hold back a lot then you are going to lose a lot in that relationship.

3. YOU ARE NOT READY TO MAKE SACRIFICES

If you are ready for a relationship then you should be ready to make sacrifices and anything short of that shows you aren’t ready for a relationship. A true relationship is about love and sacrifice and if this isn’t yet in your mind-set then you aren’t prepared to have a relationship.

4. YOU STILL CLING TO YOUR EX

If you still can’t let go of your ex then you aren’t ready for a relationship. When you still think of your ex then it shows you are not emotionally prepared to have a new partner. Every relationship needs that emotional balance that can make you can make you forgo almost every other thing and just set your mind on your partner; but if your emotions aren’t set right then that could be a problem.

5. WHEN YOU STILL CAN’T STOP CHEATING

Faithfulness should be the pride of relationship partners; it shows content, value, maturity, self-control and it also shows that you’re ready for a relationship. Faithfulness shows that you respect your partner and your partner’s feelings and wouldn’t do anything to hurt that person’s feeling. However, unfaithfulness shows you aren’t mentally and physically ready for a relationship.

6. WHEN YOU HAVE NO SELF-CONTROL

Self-control depicts maturity and maturity is needed in every relationship. So many men have turned the women in their lives to punching bags—that doesn’t show self-control. Some people get angry at the slightest provocation—that doesn’t show self-control. If you can’t control yourself in that relationship then you would lose control of that relationship. Lack of self-control shows that you are far from ready to be in a relationship.

7. WHEN YOU AREN’T ACCOMMODATING        

Surprisingly, this trait of not being accommodating is found in relationships. This points back to the first tip of self; when you are self-minded, you won’t be accommodating even to your partner. When you can’t tolerate some of your partner’s behaviour that shouldn’t really cause a problem then it shows you are not accommodating.

8. WHEN YOU AREN’T READY TO LEARN

A relationship is a learning process; no one is a professor in relationships; even the relationship experts have hitches in their relationship, and this point to one thing—a relationship is a school you never graduate from, you just keep learning and if you aren’t ready to learn then you aren’t ready to be in a relationship.

9. WHEN YOU ALWAYS WANT TO BE ALONE

Everyone needs that sober time sometimes where you can be alone and ponder about life and a whole lot of things—it helps. However, that’s totally different from when you always want to be alone. Being alone means you want to be single because being in a relationship means you have to accept some other person that isn’t you into your life totally. If you can’t do this then you aren’t ready for a relationship.

 

Movies and novels have somehow painted that picture perfect idea of a relationship in our minds and sometimes we tend to lose sight of the real picture. Wanting to be in a relationship and being ready to have a relationship are two different things. Work on yourself, work on your flaws and be ready to accept another person into your life with the person’s flaws and having that patience and accommodating spirit is what a relationship is all about.

Shawn    

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