Hello Elcrema family and welcome to yet another beautiful edition of the Elcrema Sunday Love Special.

Today, we’d be discussing about proposal. When can one say it has taken too long for a man to propose to a woman?

Drama and Shawn will share their opinions, and your opinion about this touchy subject also matters.


First, I want to say that there are different reasons why people go into a relationship, sometimes, it’s not about eventually getting married, but about fun and friendship. You need to be sure you know what you and your partner want before you dabble into that relationship. This is because there are a lot of people who are simply in a ‘just fun’ relationship without even knowing it. Define the relationship terms and goals before you start, so you’re sure of what you’re getting into.

That said, I think that it’s pretty simple to tell when a man is serious about settling with you as his partner for life (marriage). If your man, who has made his intentions to get married sometime in the future known to you is very comfortable financially, and still hasn’t proposed to you, then there is something not right with that relationship. There is usually just one thing that keeps a man from proposing to the woman he truly loves — money. Once money is available, men usually do not hold back. If they hold back, then it’s almost certain that they’re having second doubts about the woman. So, I can’t put a time frame to how long I think it should take for a man to propose to the woman he loves, but I think that the comfort level he has financially is what I consider a good yardstick to measure it. If he has no money, he isn’t ready, unless the woman is willing to be the ‘man’ in the marriage. But if he has a stable source of income, and is doing well financially, and still doesn’t propose, that can be considered as ‘stalling’. As the woman, talk to him about it, and if you’re unsatisfied with his response, body language, then, you might be right to take a walk.

Click below to read Shawn’s opinion