Having a relationship where love and friendship exist is the best kind of relationship you can have; such a relationship would be filled with romance, love, affection, togetherness and would stand the test of time.
Do you think you and your partner are lovers and friends? These are some signs that show so.
1. YOU HAVE GENUINE FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER
First and foremost, there has to be genuine love and affection between the two of you. You both have to love each other genuinely to be friends and lovers.
2. YOU BOTH SHOW IT
It doesn’t just end at loving each other; there ought to be action. You could love each other and decide not to show it, or show it occasionally. But partners who are friends and lovers show each other how much they care on a regular basis.
3. YOU ARE INTERESTED IN EACH OTHER’S AFFAIRS
You can’t be friends and lovers and then be an island. Your love and friendship will make your lives intertwined, and you’d be genuinely interested in each other’s activities.
4. YOU HAVE FUN TOGETHER
Yes, it doesn’t go without saying this. Being friends and lovers is also characterised by the happy moments you share together. You don’t just want to have a good time, but you want to have it with each other.
5. YOU PRACTICE TOGETHERNESS
Togetherness is a vital trait of couples who are friends and lovers. When you practice togetherness, the bond you both share further increases.
6. YOU VALUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Being friends and lovers doesn’t end at loving each other, but valuing each other and valuing the relationship you have with each other. Genuine friendship is valued.
7. YOU DO THINGS FOR EACH OTHER
There have to be minimal to zero signs of selfishness in a relationship where you are both friends and lovers. In a relationship like this, you don’t just care about yourself, you care about your partner, do things for each other, support each other and are there for each other.
8. YOU BOTH TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES
Taking responsibilities could come in many forms; owning up to a mistake, apologising for it, playing your roles to make the relationship grow etc. Love and friendship also requires responsibilities and commitment for it to work.
9. YOU DON’T LET LITTLE THINGS AFFECT THE RELATIONSHIP
Little fights, little arguments and little misunderstanding don’t come between partners who are friends and lovers. They don’t let trivial things affect what they have; they know how to move on from setbacks.
Having a relationship where you are not only lovers but friends is the best kind of relationship you could have with your partner; this is why it’s advised to build not only love but friendship in your relationship.
Shawn