Forgiveness is one of the hardest things to do in life. Many people can’t forgive; they would rather hold grudges even after months and years.
People always give loads of excuses why they cannot forgive, but have you ever thought about the reasons why you should forgive?
Many are unaware that forgiveness comes with certain benefits that even money can’t buy. Below are some highly important reasons why you should forgive.
1. You need it for your relationship to be successful. Your relationship can never be successful if you are the kind that can’t forgive. Forgiveness makes a relationship healthy and sets the ground for it to move forward.
2. You benefit more. You might feel that it’s the person that you are forgiving that benefits more, but in the real sense it’s you. When you forgive, you let go of a lot of loads which would unknowingly act as a burden.
3. Forgiveness lifts depression. Being unforgiving can actually lead to depression, especially if you haven’t found a way to move on. When you don’t forgive, you think a lot about the act that made you unhappy and by this you would remain unhappy and depressed — forgiveness lifts that away.
4. Forgiveness is what starts the healing process. You can’t heal from a hurt if you don’t really forgive.
5. Forgiveness allows you to move on with other parts of your life. When you hold grudges, you definitely can’t move on.
6. Forgiveness helps you do away with certain bad and negative vices like resentment, grudges, malice etc.
7. Forgiveness makes you at peace. When you forgive, you feel free and at peace with yourself and everyone around you. Being unforgiving would leave you without peace.
8. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you accept the person back into your life. This is another part of forgiveness people get wrong. Forgiveness doesn’t really mean you have to accept the person back into your life; it only means you have moved on and wouldn’t be bothered by that event and that you wouldn’t count it against that person.
9. Forgiveness is a gift; a gift that comes straight from the heart.
According to Bernard Meltzer: “When you forgive, you in no way change the past — but you sure do change the future.”
Jake