Most people don’t know how to act on their first date, most especially when they really do like the person a lot. First dates are kind of special and romantic and it can spark you guys on to go into a relationship or not.
The first date can even make you fall in love or make you hate someone as well; it just depends on how it pans out.
We know people don’t know a lot on what and what not to do on their first date so I tabled out some first date necessities and blunders. This is for both guys and ladies.
If you want to impress her or him then you really have to check this out.
I’d start with the don’ts then the do’s would come after.
1. DON’T TALK ABOUT S*X
S*x is one topic that should be avoided; talks on s*x only shows that you are only eager to have s*x with the person. Except you both are just s*x freaks sitting out for a date, s*x shouldn’t be a topic for discussion. If it’s someone you actually do care about and would want to build something with, try as much as possible to keep talks of s*x far off that date.
2. DON’T FLIRT
I don’t see flirting on the first date as a sign of maturity, the time for that would most definitely come but on the first date it’s a no-no. These tips though are for serious minded people that want a relationship after the first date not the sex seekers. So if you like that guy or that lady; try as much as possible not to flirt.
3. DON’T TALK TOO MUCH
Even if you are a natural talkative, try to seal your lips a little. When you get used to him or her, you can continue your talkative lifestyle and it might even be fun then. But when you talk too much, you have just succeeded in ruining that date, talking too much on the first date sends so many bad signals and the truth is your date is noticing everything you do and making observations as well.
4. DON’T TALK TOO LITTLE
The fact that you shouldn’t talk too much doesn’t mean you should talk too little. Talking too little would pass one message, which is that you are a boring person. Don’t let your date do all the talking, try to be engaging as well; be lively. The key thing you should note is that you shouldn’t over do anything.
5. DON’T DRESS TOO SERIOUS
Don’t dress too serious, don’t act too serious. It’s a date; you should relax and feel free. Do not dress like you are so eager to impress; keep it simple though not too casual. Just look good in a simple way. But when you dress in a manner that would show you’re trying to impress, you would pass a wrong message to your date.
6. DON’T ASK ABOUT HIS/HER EX
Do not bring up talks about ex; as at that time, it is too early a stage, so talks about ex shouldn’t concern you. Maybe until you have gotten more acquainted with the person, you can then go on to bring such talks. Talks about ex are way too personal for a first date. Maybe your date may just be recovering from a bad break up and wouldn’t want anything that would make him/her think of the ex.
7. DON’T BE LATE
Whether it’s the guy or the lady, it’s wrong to be late for a date. If it’s 7 0 clock, let it be 7 0 clock. When you are late for a date, try as much as possible to call your date to explain what’s going on and be truthful as well; don’t leave the person stranded with no logical explanation. When you’re late for a date, you’ve only killed the mood for that date and it just might spoil the whole thing.
8. DON’T SHOW OFF
Never show off with anything you have on your first date. This is one terrible mistake people make and I wonder why. Showing off your wealth or any attractive thing you have or bragging or pride are things that should be far off on a first date. If you do this, you’ve just passed so many wrong messages and you might only end up creating a bad image for yourself.
9. AVOID GADGET USE
Your mobile phones or any gadget use should be far off. When you pretend to be busy with your phone, you are making the date boring as well as passing a message that you are not confident or uncomfortable. Just relax and be yourself; don’t bore things out.
Your first date with someone you really like is important, keeping it simple and be original is key to having an interesting date. These don’ts listed would be a useful guide in having a cool first date that wouldn’t leave your mind in a hurry.
Shawn