Friends are an important part of our lives; they provide a support system that makes life beautiful. I’m not sure how one can survive without friends, or how the world would be if friendship didn’t exist.
However, there should be a limit to everything; there should be boundaries which shouldn’t be crossed, else your friends might just ruin your relationship, and you both wouldn’t know it.
It might not be intentional, but this is how most women allow their friends ruin their relationship.
1. YOU LET THEM DECIDE WHO YOU SHOULD DATE
You should know what/who’s best for you, and you should have the final say on how your relationship life should go. But in a lot of circles, most women tend to decide who’s good enough for their friends — and this isn’t healthy.
2. GIVE WRONG ADVICE
I’ve seen so many wrong advice that has led to the end of a marriage or relationship. You should be careful who you seek advice from, but most ladies tend to meet their friends rather than trust their intuition; and this goes bad more often than not.
3. YOUR FRIENDS THINK YOUR MAN ISN’T GOOD ENOUGH
You might have a gorgeous man for a partner; who you understand and he understands you thoroughly, but because he doesn’t meet certain social requirements, your friends might not really like him, or think he isn’t good enough.
Your man might be the best for you, but sooner or later, you would start finding faults in him because your mind has been poisoned towards him.
4. YOU LET THEM TELL YOU WHAT TO DO AND WHAT NOT
When you have friends that tell you what to do and what not to do in your relationship, you are going the wrong way. That decision should be up to you, and your relationship would definitely get ruined when you let your friends make your decisions for you.
5. THEY WANT YOU TO SEEK CONTROL OR PUNISH YOUR MAN
There are so many women like these who have no clue what a relationship should be like. They like to be in control of their relationships and tend to withhold sex, intimacy, peace and emotional availability just to punish or control their man. If you have friends who belong in this category of women, they could ruin your relationship.
6. THEY WANT ALL YOUR ATTENTION
It’s normal for friends to want your attention, but it shouldn’t be at the expense of your relationship. When your friends want you to ignore your man for them, that might not be healthy for your relationship.
7. THEY DISRESPECT YOUR PARTNER
When you have friends that don’t like your man and disrespect him because of that, or talk bad about him every time; you would be influenced into doing the same thing in the near future — and you wouldn’t appreciate what your man does for you anymore.
8. THEY WANT YOU TO CHEAT
Friends who encourage you to cheat, flirt or pursue lustful desires aren’t good for your relationship. Friends who link you up with another man when they know you are in a relationship you like aren’t good for your relationship.
Friends are an important part of our lives, but letting them into your relationship might just be a step too far.
ViV