An old-fashioned man is more like a traditional man; he has strict principles guiding him, he has a philosophy which is different from that of the average modern man.
When you’re dating an old-fashioned man, there are certain things to expect from him, he doesn’t have the complicating lifestyle of the modern man.
With the signs that would be listed below, you would surely know if the man you’re dating or about to date is an old-fashioned man.
1. DOMINEERING
The old-fashioned man wants his word to be his word, he doesn’t like when his lady goes outside his will. As strange as it sounds, the old-fashioned man has an ego that is peculiar to him. One may even argue that the old-fashioned man is a male chauvinist because of the way he goes about his things. To him, he just loves when his will is done, when he wants it and how he wants it.
2. NEVER IN A HURRY
Another striking thing about the old-fashioned man is his calm nature. The old-fashioned man is never in a hurry to get his lady, he always bids his time. An old-fashioned man is patient; he doesn’t pressure the lady after the first date, and could even wait till the fifth, sixth date before letting known his intentions. An old-fashioned man won’t pressure his lady to have sex with him.
3. STRAIGHT FORWARD
An old-fashioned man is straight forward, he’s easy to understand; his life is never complicated. When dating an old-fashioned man, you know what he likes and what he hates as well; you would also know what he expects from you. His principles are clear and direct. He even has a structured lifestyle, from his whereabouts down to every little thing he does.
4. WOULDN’T MIND SHOWING LOVE
An old-fashioned man wouldn’t mind showing his lady love anywhere they are. He would hold her hands, open doors for her and do all the simple but important things every lady wants from her man. The old-fashioned man is sensitive to the woman’s needs; as far as he loves you then he would go the extra mile.
5. HE ALWAYS PAY THE BILLS
The old-fashioned man wants to be the man at all times. When it comes to paying the bills, he would never hesitate. I don’t know if it’s as a result of his ego or that he wants to please his lady or the combination of both, but one sure thing is that the old-fashioned man would always pay the bills at all times; he doesn’t need a contribution from the lady, he loves to be the man.
6. HE’S NOT ADVENTUROUS
The old-fashioned man doesn’t take too much risks, he doesn’t have an adventurous side; everything he does is pre-calculated. He’s not really the type that would spring up surprises every now and then, in simpler words, he’s very predictable. Not that he’s not fun to be with but he wouldn’t come up with something crazy. An old-fashioned man always keeps it safe.
7. HE MARKS HIS TERRITORY
One thing you should know about the old-fashioned man is that he doesn’t joke with his lady. An old-fashioned man loves it when everyone knows that his lady is a no-go-area. He makes it obvious without a doubt; he doesn’t want boundaries to be crossed. If you are a lady and you get that extra sensitivity or that extra bit of protection from your man, just know that he’s just marking his territory which every old-fashioned man does.
8. JEALOUSY
Compared to the new generation guys, an old-fashioned man is one that gets jealous easily. The previous tip talked about marking his territory and this one goes further. If you go past his marked territory, trust me when I say that would obviously get him jealous, and you wouldn’t want to test the mettle of that man.
An old-fashioned man could be the best ever and could as well be the most boring; it all depends on the lady. Like they say “one man’s meat is another man’s poison”.
Shawn
This article describes the man I’m dating. I’ve read many articles trying to define the type man he was. I had bits and pieces of the puzzle but it’s finally put together. Thank you for writing this article.
The real problem today is that many of us Good Single Men just can’t meet a real Good Old Fashioned Woman since they just Don’t exist anymore today unfortunately.
I’m dating a traditional/old fashioned man now. He has all these traits and more, I love him and I know he is the alpha in our relationship and he reminds me of it all of the time.
This is the perfect combination. I’m tired of modern guys. They are boys. I mean, how is any of this wrong?
1. Domineering – Why wouldn’t you want that? It makes things easier. Assuming you’re a good, kind guy, this helps move things along in the right direction. Women do not naturally want to take the lead, so forcing them into that role makes them feel uncomfortable, like something is off kilter. I want my man to take control, and say “Look baby, I love you, you love me, and you’re mine.” or “Listen, we’re going out at this time to this place. You’re not going anywhere. We’re going to talk.” To have a firm, strong voice, addressing issues rather than blowing them off or waiting for a woman to handle them.
2. Never in a hurry – Isn’t this ideal? Were we created to rush? No, we need patience. Relaxation. Old fashioned men give that to their woman, and become the woman’s ROCK.
3. Straight-Forward – What woman doesn’t want total, complete and unerring honesty? No bull, no denial, no lies, just total BRAVERY? Because that’s what being honest is, right? Bravery. The woman never needs to fish for the truth, because it’s well known. But first, the guy needs to have admitted it to himself. That’s handsome, old-fashioned guys are honest with themselves, so women are so attracted to them. They’re men, because of that. Men don’t lie to themselves like boys. Men want the Truth every time. Even from themselves. 4. He Wouldn’t Mind Showing Love – This is expected. If a man can’t or won’t show love in every setting, he’s not a man. Boys won’t hold your hand in public, boys won’t show they have the human emotion to be monogamous and respectful towards women, because boys care more about impressing other boys. Only a true man, an old-fashioned man, would say “Sorry guys, I’m with the girl today.” Only a man would kiss his woman anywhere, hold her door open whether she liked it or not, and an old-fashioned man would never let her say otherwise because he is a gentleman.
5. He Always Pays The Bills – Sexy. Why? Not money. The old-fashioned man has RESPONSIBILITY. He isn’t lazy. If he’s lazy, his family starves. He knows this, and would be devastated if he let his priorities get off. Thus, he has laser-like focus. He does what he needs to do, everyday. Period. End of story. 6. He’s Not Adventurous – Is this bad either? I want stability. I don’t want childlike parties and thrills. No. I am an adult now. I want reliability. I want my man. If he needs risk-taking to feel alive, he’s a boy. Which is why many boys continue to play video games into their ‘adulthood’ rather than man up. He can’t cope with the responsibility of being a man yet. And old-fashioned man has none of that. 7. He Marks His Territory – This is expected as well. If a man doesn’t mind sharing, then there’s something terribly, terribly wrong. Only the modern day boy would say “Free love!” or “I’m sharing her with everyone, because that’s free!” Only a MAN would claim a woman as his own. This is in our DNA, and technology has warped that in us. Nobody has any values anymore. Our actions are at odds with our desires. But old-fashioned men disregard all the modern values, and go back to the basics – women are the weaker sex physically, women need protecting, I will protect her. Women are vulnerable to rape, I will protect her from men. This woman’s mine, so I will not let her wander to other men. It’s not ownership. It’s monogamy, which was much more pure in older times. 8. Jealousy – Now this is incredibly sexy, not making him jealous, but that he will get jealous if you walk out of line. It’s not the same jealousy that comes with a modern man, the old-fashioned jealousy is primal. It’s, grr, that’s mine, back! And it’s mutual, as well. So, why on earth is this bad? A modern day boy wouldn’t care less whether you stay or go, or where you go, whom you’re even talking to, because, well- who cares! There’s a great wall of China between trust and carelessness. The old-fashioned guy cares so much that he Will make sure you don’t stray, because it’s unacceptable, as you’re his. He cares too much to let another man make sexual advances on you, though he trusts you not to, because he’s with you. An old-fashioned man would make it clear he wants TOTAL monogamy. And that is why I want an old-fashioned man.
Trolls and entertainment paint the words Old-Fashioned to mean drunk, abusive, cheating, misogynistic, etc etc.They’re believing what the internet tells them. Those are just modern day boys and girls that never, ever think for themselves. Old-fashioned goes far back, beyond the 1950’s. Way back. Into our very primal DNA.
Very well said M. To me, a real man is confident, capable and in control, I find these characteristics irresistible and compliment my feminine energies perfectly.
Mine is a traditional man, and am happy just what I want .