Relationships always have its ups and downs; the guy must err and the lady too. But the major thing isn’t really about your partner making a mistake (after all that’s what makes us human and not spirits), it’s about being sorry for the mistake you’ve made and making amends.
However, some guys wrong their ladies and don’t even feel remorse about it; that’s awkward, and this has made most ladies reluctant in forgiving their man.
Most guys say sorry and don’t mean it, they say sorry and end up doing the same thing over and over again forgetting that it’s bad for their relationship.
The truth is, when a man is sorry, you would definitely know he’s sorry, there are certain signs he would certainly give, and you would know he’s not joking about it.
1. FIRST STEP IS ACKNOWLEDGING HIS MISTAKES
For you to be sorry for an act, you have to acknowledge that you were in the wrong and take responsibilities for your actions. Sometimes, your man would say he’s sorry but still won’t accept the fact that what he did was wrong. Honestly, that is nowhere near being sorry.
2. HE WOULD DO ANYTHING TO MAKE YOU BELIEVE HIM
When a man is sorry for his actions, he would do anything to make you believe him; no action would be too little for him (as far as it is not out of the ordinary). No guy would want to lose a lady he actually loves, so he would do anything to please you and make you believe he is really sorry.
3. HE WOULDN’T GIVE UP
After hurting someone, it takes a while for that person to trust you again; so if a lady is hurt, sometimes she just needs time to think things through, and this is where you spot the difference between the guy that’s truly sorry and the one that’s just faking. Time is something men don’t have; the truly sorry guy won’t give up in a hurry but the less sorry one would give up so easily; he wouldn’t see a point in taking too much time.
4. HE WOULD BE STEADY
When he’s here today and there tomorrow, that’s not a sign that he’s sorry. When you’re sorry, you ought to be ready to show it, no matter what. If the guy says he’s sorry today, takes a few days off then comes back again then goes off, then it’s obvious he hasn’t changed; he isn’t sorry and might hurt you any time soon. This kinda guy is a hazard; he wouldn’t really take you serious.
5. HE WOULD BE UNDERSTANDING
An honest guy would try to be understanding; an honest guy would know that he has hurt you and you need to be at peace before you accept him again. He should understand the pains he has put you through and try to be by you all through. If he is sorry, then he should understand, if not anything, for the pains he’s caused you.
6. PLEASE YOU
I think every sorry guy do this; when he hurts a lady, he should be ready to please you by all means. Pleasing you can just be a way of saying “I’m sorry and I won’t do this again”. When a guy is actually sorry, he tries to make his lady happy at all cost.
Respect here goes in two ways. First he should be able to respect your decision; secondly, he should respect you, such that, he doesn’t go about buzzing you night and day because he’s sorry. Being sorry doesn’t mean he should call you 24 times by 3.am; it doesn’t mean he should disturb your life all through even when you’re at work; it could get irritating really. He ought to respect in some certain ways.
8. ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN VOICE
This just wraps it all. By his deeds, his behaviour and actions, you should know if your man is sorry or not. When a guy is sorry he shows he’s sorry; he wouldn’t mind going the extra mile to win back your heart.
Forgiveness isn’t really easy but with all these signs, you should definitely be sure that your man is sorry or not. It’s left for you to accept him or finally call an end to the relationship.