8 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T REMAIN FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX AFTER A BREAKUP

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It’s usually tempting to try to remain friends with an ex after a breakup, but there are many tangible reasons why such a friendship would only be a false dawn.

Being friends with your ex, especially after breakup poses certain risks.

1. THE HURT PARTNER MIGHT BE USED

The partner who the breakup hurts the most might be used in the process. This is a very huge risk that comes with being friends after a breakup, and more often than not most partners turn out to be friends with benefits after such a breakup which wouldn’t be healthy for the hurt partner.

2. YOU TEND TO HARBOUR UNNECESSARY HOPES

When you want to remain friends with an ex after a breakup, you do this because you harbour hopes that there would be a makeup, and this is a very dangerous way to think.

3. THE EMOTIONS WOULDN’T MAKE FOR A HEALTHY FRIENDSHIP

Most times, after a breakup, there are various negative emotions like anger, resentment, feeling of hurt and possibly retaliation. A friendship can’t even be built on such foundations, so it’s best to go your separate ways, for a while at least. A friendship can never be healthy with these negative emotions.

4. YOU NEED TIME TO HEAL

Of course, a breakup hurts and you need time to heal. Regular contact with your ex can alter the healing process.

5. YOU WOULD HURT MORE WHEN THEY ENTER A NEW RELATIONSHIP

This is probably the worst thing about being friends with your ex after a breakup. When a new partner comes in the picture, you would definitely feel uncomfortable and hurt more; it might even bring back all the hurts that came with the breakup and a lot worse.

6. YOU NEED TO GET BACK YOUR IDENTITY

It’s easy to lose yourself and your identity in the course of a breakup. You definitely need time away from that ex to regain your identity or forge a new identity if need be.

7. YOU FORGET THE REASON FOR THE BREAKUP

This is another huge possibility if you don’t try to move on after a breakup. You might forget the reason for the breakup and see that ex of yours in the perfect light — you might even be tempted to blame yourself for the breakup even though it was caused by your ex.

8. YOU WOULD FEEL FREE WHEN YOU EVENTUALLY MOVE ON

Moving on is almost always the best bet after a breakup. If you can move on, you would feel free, you would feel better and you would be glad you did.

Staying friends with an ex poses more danger than good to the relationship; you might only hurt yourself more in the relationship.

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1 Comment on "8 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T REMAIN FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX AFTER A BREAKUP"

  1. Quite great it’s really nice going via these tips
    But one problem I got is, I got a girl and happened to know the guy she also date and the guy has been giving me bad impressions of her, I also do like to leave her due to her secretive attitude to me and even her friends but I don’t just wanna be the cause for separation. How do I go forth

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