People date for many wrong reasons; looks, attractiveness, s*x and a whole lot of other irrelevant factors. Dating for the wrong reasons might be bad but it doesn’t even come close to marrying for the wrong reasons; it’s surprising that people sometimes get married for the wrong reasons.
Getting married for the wrong reasons would give you more sadness than joy, but when you get married to your partner for the right reasons, which should include love then your marriage would not just be the next best thing after anything you could think of, rather it would be the best thing.
Marriage sometimes could be quite complicating and it’s surprising that people get married for so many flimsy reasons.
I would share 8 reasons why you should only get married to the right person, for the right reasons.
1. YOUR HAPPINESS WOULD BE GUARANTEED
The best thing about marriage is marrying someone you actually love and the person loves you without measure in return. When love is the bedrock of a marriage, so many other factors would come along with it and that should include understanding; with love and understanding in a marriage, nothing could actually become better than that.
2. THE MARRIAGE WOULD BE SOLID
When you get carried away and marry for the wrong reasons, then you start a mission against time from your wedding day; a mission to when the marriage would actually crash. When love is the reason you and your partner marry each other then the marriage wouldn’t easily be shaken, the love for each other would add a lot in making that marriage work.
3. WITH THE WRONG PERSON, YOUR LIFE WOULD BE A LIVING HELL
If you don’t marry because you love someone then you have successfully made your life a living hell, and that is no ordinary feat. How long can you pretend to be in a marriage where love doesn’t exist especially when you would have to be with that person for the rest of your life? There are certain things that wouldn’t last and marriage to someone you have little feelings for is definitely one of them.
4. YOU WOULD HAVE THE ZEAL TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK
If you get married to someone you love, you would have no difficulty in bringing out your zeal to make the marriage work, but when you are in a marriage where you got married for reasons other than love then you wouldn’t have the zeal to put your marriage on the right track till it eventually slides out of track.
5. YOUR PARTNER WON’T TAKE YOU FOR GRANTED
I’ve seen so many situations where people take their partner for granted; where the marriage is subjected to domestic and verbal abuse, unfaithfulness and all manner of irregularities; this is only possible in a relationship where love doesn’t really exist or if it does the couples haven’t let the love in heart have a soothing effect on the marriage. If you are in a marriage where love abounds, you won’t take your partner for granted and your partner won’t take you for granted as well.
6. SOMETIMES, LOVE COULD BE THE LAST STRAW
Marriage doesn’t need ordinary feelings or affection to pull it out of the mud when it reaches that stage. Sometimes the only thing that can help a marriage when it reaches its dark days is love; when love isn’t strong in a marriage, there won’t be the soothing factor when the problem starts pouring in.
7. THE WRONG REASON WON’T LAST
If you get married for the wrong reasons, it could probably not last, it could fade away at some point, and you might then begin to look for a fresh start. This isn’t the case when you marry someone you truly love; love isn’t one of those emotions that would fade away easily.
8. MARRIAGE ISN’T DATING; IT’S A LIFE COMMITMENT
People compare marriage to dating; in the sense that they date for the wrong reasons and probably marry for the wrong reasons. Dating is just a mere prelude, marriage is the whole book; you are either in or out, it’s a life commitment; so why make a life commitment with someone you don’t really love?
Marriage to someone you love and who loves you back can never be compared to a marriage where irrelevant things clouded one or both partners judgement to say “I do” to each other.
Why ditch a lifetime of happiness for momentary joy?
Shawn
I think this is what people shud realy look at before they decide to tie the knot, otherwise you will end up with regrets and say that married life sucks while you where the one who put yourself in that situation to start with. So let’s think hard before we make any drastic decisions!!!!!
thanks for you good advice