There is a difference between being a hard worker and being a workaholic. To an employer, a workaholic is the best man for the job; he is selfless, dedicated and always gets the job done. When you are termed a workaholic, something usually pays the price, and if you are married, your marriage would pay the price.
In the mind of the workaholic, I need to get the job done he says to himself, I need to pay the bills, I love my job – it’s who I am, I want the best for my family and so on. But the script says something different as far as the wife is concerned; yes, she loves the awards her husband gets, she loves the dedication, she loves that he pays the bills but to that woman, family comes first, and that’s where the problem begins in that marriage.
Sometimes, it’s the woman who turns out the workaholic in a marriage, and the man is left to cater for the children and in some cases do the household chores. This is even more a dangerous situation.
Being that workaholic can destroy your marriage, and I’d share reasons why
1. YOUR PARTNER STARTS TO NAG
In the eyes of the workaholic, he (she) is working for the family, but in the eyes of the spouse, you put your work above your family, and this might lead to that spouse complaining. Sometimes those complaints would seem like nagging to the workaholic, and this would lead to other problems if not well handled.
2. YOUR SPOUSE NEEDS YOU
Whether you know this or not – your spouse needs you, and sometimes would love to be selfish about you, and would want you to prefer her (him) to any other thing. Your spouse might want to try to be understanding of your situation but hardly can. There are so many vacuums that are left when a spouse isn’t always home, and those vacuums are needs that should be met in the eyes of the other partner.
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