No one is perfect; everyone makes mistakes. However, there are certain mistakes that could destroy your relationship, especially if you keep making them over and over.
These relationship mistakes below are common with men, but men ought to stop making these mistakes.
1. BEING TOO SELF-ABSORBED
Thinking of yourself too much, making yourself the priority, wanting to be in control always, wanting to have all the say are some examples of being self-absorbed and men should stop making this common mistake if they want the best out of the relationship.
2. NOT RECOGNISING HER EFFORTS
This is another common relationship mistake men make that doesn’t end up well.
A lot of men don’t recognise the efforts of their women, they don’t really appreciate what she does and only recognise it when she’s gone or when the relationship has sunk. Many men have lost beautiful relationships just for this act, and it shouldn’t be so.
3. YOU DON’T COMMUNICATE ENOUGH WITH HER
You should talk to her always, you should communicate with her, you should listen to her, you should keep in touch with her. When you don’t do this, your relationship would suffer terribly.
4. YOU DON’T INSPIRE TRUST
It shouldn’t be about ‘not getting caught’ as so many men do, it should be more about being faithful to that loving woman. Unfaithfulness aside, a lot of men hide things from their women and this doesn’t inspire trust. Try honesty, truthfulness and being open with her, and she would trust you the more.
5. PRIORITIES
Priorities are what matters to you, and it isn’t about what you say, it’s about what you do. So many things might be important to you, but it doesn’t mean you should prioritise them over your relationship with her; your relationship would suffer when you do this, and you should avoid this common mistake.
6. YOU DON’T TRY TO UNDERSTAND HER
Not understanding her is one thing, but not trying to understand her is the mistake here. If you don’t care about how she feels, if you don’t try to understand what she’s saying and why she’s saying it, if you don’t try to understand her emotions and what she’s going through, your relationship with her would suffer, and you should avoid this mistake.
7. NOT PLAYING YOUR PART
You have your role just as she has hers. If you are nonchalant in playing your role and being there for her as a man or not playing your role well enough, you aren’t building your relationship the right way.
You should care about her and show it, you should make the relationship better and you should make her better as well, and you should contribute enough to the relationship.
8. BEING INCONSISTENT
Inconsistency is just another common relationship mistake a lot of men are guilty of; when you are committed today and the next day you aren’t, you are loving today and unloving the next, you are hot today and cold tomorrow. When you are inconsistent, the relationship would swing back and forth, and end up going nowhere.
What common relationship mistake do you make as a man? It could even be outside these things mentioned above; it could be being inconsiderate, being quick to anger, being overly jealous for no reason, being too critical, having time for friends and not her — it could be anything. But these mistakes that are tagged as common are what hurt the relationship the more.
Shawn