One fact about love and relationship is that not everyone you love would actually love you back; some would love you back, some would like you only a little and some might never really have your time or like you for a second no matter what you do.
Getting over that crush or partner that took you for granted because they didn’t really love you is hardly ever easy, but it’s highly important to grow from such feelings and move on. Having that kind of crush would only set you back in many ways that you would never imagine.
There are some effective ways to manage your emotions and get over that person.
1. AVOID UNNECESSARY CONTACT WITH THE PERSON
This is one of the most important steps you have to take if you really want to move on. You can’t keep creating unnecessary contact and expect to move on easily — that’s only self-deceit.
2. NEVER HARBOUR HOPE
Hope is one reason people can’t get over someone; hope would only push you to make all the bad decisions and ruin your ability to move on. Hope would make you create unnecessary contact with that person, hope would make you think of the person day and night, hope would make you go over the odds to get that person and hope would make you deceive yourself for no just cause.
If you can cancel out every hope that you would win that person over then you’re on your way to redemption.
3. CLEAR REMINDERS
Reminders of that person are another important thing you have to take away. When you still have reminders of that person then you would definitely harbour hopes of uniting with that person or you would keep having feelings for that person, and you don’t need this.
Clearing off reminders would aid the process of forgetting that person. If you can forget the person then you can go a long way in setting your mind and emotions right.
4. HANG OUT WITH OLD FRIENDS
People that matters most to you are who you really need to be with in times like this. Hang out with your friends and they would give you every reason to be excited. When you are excited, you would rarely think about that old crush or lover.
5. MEET NEW PEOPLE
Making new friends come with its own energy, and it’s one that you would need at this time. Meet new people, make new friends but be careful not to have a rebound relationship. Just be happy and have fun.
6. NEVER CYBER-STALK
Cyber-stalking is the worst thing to do when you want to get over a crush or a lover who didn’t really love you. Cyber stalking would play with your mindset and give you unnecessary reasons to get back with that person. Cyber-stalking would only damage every progress you’ve made.
7. LOVE YOURSELF
Learn to see the good in yourself; this would help boost your confidence and self-esteem, and also make you value yourself the more.
Learn to love yourself, learn new things, spend time doing things you love, enjoy your company and before you know it, you would be over that crush who wouldn’t love you back.
Loving someone who wouldn’t love you back is never an ideal situation; worse even is being in a relationship with that person. Being in such a situation can only set you back if you aren’t careful. Free yourself from the bondage of such emotions with these tips.
Shawn