Charisma is an inward trait; it isn’t something you are born with, but it’s something you learn, acquire and build.
You either have charisma or you don’t. But it’s never too late to build charisma.
These tips will help you:
1. DEVELOP A SENSE OF CONFIDENCE
Charisma starts from within; it’s everything about your personality and it can only be appreciated when you are confident. Build a sense of confidence within you and take off every feeling of fear, doubt, timidity and weakness. Charisma and confidence are two siblings that always accompany each other.
2. HAVE A PURPOSE
Charisma identifies with purpose, vision and dreams. When there is a burning fire within you, charisma will be present. Indeed if you don’t stand for something, you’ll live for nothing.
You need to trust yourself that you are going the right path, that you are making the right decision and that you aren’t just walking aimlessly. Charisma comes with an inward sense of trust. People who trust their inward spirit and instincts are usually the most charismatic, while people who don’t trust themselves lack charisma even when they are doing the right thing.
4. CHOOSE TO BE IN CONTROL
Charisma isn’t just the way you feel, it’s also the way you act. Charisma is choosing to be in control even when your nerves and senses are weak. Make that decision to be in control of your nerves and gradually you will beat your fears and anxiety to the last. Charisma comes with the decision to be in control.
5. KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE
One great thing about charismatic people is that they can hold a place down with their speech. When they talk, people listen. This is because they have mastered the art and know just the right things to do. To achieve this, you must be a good listener, you must also be knowledgeable, you must be assured, you must know when to talk and just how to talk, you must understand the mood and body language of the people you are talking to and you should try to find a common ground with the people you are dealing with. This breeds charisma.
6. LEARN TO ADAPT
Being able to adapt in any given situation is also a function of charisma. You must be willing to adapt to any given situation if you want to be charismatic.
7. GIVE MORE
Charismatic people are givers and not takers; they are more interested in making things better than being bettered. This is why they are respected everywhere they go. Being charismatic doesn’t just lie with what you have, but what you give is even more important.
Dan Reiland said: “How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you.”
And a quote by Jim Rees: “He had a charisma, and charisma is not just the way the face looked. It’s how he moved, how he stood.”