A look at the media (internet, radio, TV and the lot) will tell you that so much attention is being paid to people in relationships, would-be couples and marriages.
There’s very little attention given to those who are divorced, as their marriages didn’t work for some reasons.
As much as we want every marriage to work, the inevitability of divorce is very high, and life also must go on. Divorcées also are humans and need love and attention just like everyone else.
These are some tips every divorcee must know:
1. FORGIVE YOURSELF
The first person to forgive when a relationship goes wrong and is broken is yourself. If you can’t forgive yourself, it’ll be impossible to forgive your partner or any other person.
You probably must have made some mistakes and did some things wrong, but you must let go and forgive yourself for every wrong done.
2. FORGIVE YOUR PARTNER
It’s also important that you forgive your partner. This is just as important as forgiving yourself. Your partner might have hurt you terribly, but forgiving that person gives you the strength to move on. In forgiving your partner, you make it easier for your heart to heal. Let go of the grudges and bitterness — free yourself from it all with the powerful tool called forgiveness.
3. LET GO OF THE PAST
One terrible thing about the past is that it has a way of affecting your future. You can never move forward if you still hold on to the past.
Let go of certain things that remind you of the past, push away the thoughts of ‘what would have been’ — it wouldn’t help you. It might not be easy, but it’s possible. Free yourself from the depressing power of the past and look forward to a future that you desire even if it things look bleak at the moment.
4. RE-FIND YOURSELF
Don’t let your dreams, goals, passion, ambition, vision and plans die off because your marriage didn’t work. Those things make the core of you; don’t throw it away. In finding these things, you get back happiness, pleasure and purpose. Joy will return to your life, and you won’t feel empty anymore.
5. DON’T BE DESPERATE
One major mistake many divorcées make is desperation (especially women). Don’t be desperate for love, don’t be desperate to enter a new relationship; you’ll end up making another mistake. Just focus on re-finding yourself as stated in the previous tip.
6. VALUE YOURSELF
You must value yourself; don’t see yourself as weak and someone who nobody wants. The value you place on yourself is an image that’s easy for everyone to see. Your life sometimes is an open book; people see you just as you see yourself.
Place a huge value on yourself, and you will be surprised just how much people will value you enough for a relationship with you.
7. BE OPEN
Don’t lock the door to a new relationship just because of a past relationship. Don’t let your broken marriage destroy your hopes of entering a new one. Keep your heart open; you can still be loved and appreciated by someone else. There’s always that person who can help you wipe the tear of the past — but you have to leave that door open.