7 THINGS ONLY SELFISH PARTNERS DO

To be selfless in a relationship isn’t quite an easy task. We tend to think more about ourselves than our partner or the relationship — that’s a trait of humans. But then, it’s up to a person to outgrow that act of selfishness and self-centredness and mature into a selfless person with each day.

However, inasmuch as we tend to be more selfish than selfless in our relationships, there are certain acts that only typify how selfish one can be in a relationship.

These traits below only show that you are a selfish partner.

1. YOU CARE ABOUT YOURSELF THAN CERTAIN ASPECTS OF THE RELATIONSHIP

When you care more about yourself than the relationship, then that’s a sign of selfishness. Any partner who always tend to put self ahead of their relationship is a selfish partner. When it’s always “me” and “I” and never “we”, then there’s a problem.

2. YOU DON’T SHOW YOUR PARTNER HOW MUCH YOU CARE

A selfish person forgets that their partner has emotions and feelings and deserves to be loved and cared for. However, when you don’t show your partner love and you just live every day of your life without acknowledging that ‘special person’ in your life, then that’s a huge sign of selfishness.

3. YOU WANT ALL THE DECISIONS TO GO YOUR WAY

When it’s always what you want and never what your partner wants, when you always want to make the decisions and you care less about your partner’s point of view, then that’s selfishness.

4. YOUR PARTNER HAS TO BEG YOU FOR YOU TO DO SOMETHING

When your partner has to constantly remind you or beg you to do something that you ought to do, it’s another sign of selfishness. A mistake is no longer a mistake when it happens too frequently. If you let your partner disturb or plead with you to keep a promise or perform your responsibilities, you’re a selfish partner.

5. YOU NEVER GIVE IN

Compromise is a sign of a selfless partner. But when you never compromise and always take a stand in certain decisions, you’re a selfish partner. The partner who tends to throw in the towel is usually the mature and selfless partner.

6. YOU DON’T APOLOGISE

A partner/person who doesn’t apologise when wrong isn’t only self-centred, but ignorant and immature as well. You would never be a good partner if you don’t know how to apologise.

7. YOU SEE YOURSELF AS PERFECT, AND YOUR PARTNER IMPERFECT

When you feel you’re the flawless one, the perfect one and one who never makes mistakes, then you’re a selfish partner. If you tend to see only your partner’s mistakes and you don’t see yours, and you never accept your mistakes or take responsibilities for your actions, then that’s a huge sign of selfishness.

 

These signs are things you just have to cut off from your life, if they are found in you.

Shawn

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