In a relationship, letting go can be an uneasy task. Firstly, it could be because you don’t want to hurt the person, and then, it’s also possible you’re just too scared to lose something you’ve built over the months or years, and have to start all over again.
Whichever it is, we have to admit that we understand, but sometimes, letting go can be your very best option. Some relationships are very toxic, and the longer you’re in them, the more you suffer.
Some of us are usually stuck in these relationships because we have no idea when to let go. If you are one of such people, then, you need to take be on the lookout for the following signs.
THEY’VE BROKEN YOUR TRUST MORE TIMES THAN YOU CAN COUNT
Trust is very important in a relationship. It is in fact, the very foundation on which most successful relationships are built. A relationship without it doesn’t qualify to be called one.
When your partner or buddy has consistently broken your trust over and over, it is not a good thing for your relationship because it means they don’t value you enough, and are probably using you for their own selfish reasons. It doesn’t even matter if they apologise about it or not, if they keep doing the same thing, it makes no sense.
THEY ARE NEEDY
Everyone needs another at some point, but there’s a limit to how much is healthy for you. There’s a difference between being needy and occasionally having needs. Needy people want you to be there in every way; even when it’s not convenient. They want financial support, emotional help, they just need it all. But they’re rarely willing to give anything in return. This can drain you, and leave you in emotional and financial trouble.
YOU HAVE TO BE SOMEONE ELSE FOR THEM
A relationship should be based on total love and acceptance. When you have to alter who you really are to fit into another person’s profile of who they think you should be, it is unaccompanied. I’m not saying it’s wrong to change for those you love, but at least, it should be positive change. You can’t expect someone to start doing drugs in order to please you. That’s wrong.
YOU DON’T FEEL GREAT AFTER BEING WITH THEM
A relationship should be positive and uplifting. When you get to a point in your relationship when you no longer feel joy and happiness after spending time with your friend or partner, it may be time to go. Sometimes, we want to hang around a little more because we hope things take a better turn, but that may be an even more regrettable decision.
THEY DON’T REALLY LISTEN TO YOU
Attention is honestly the biggest measure of love and affection. Someone who loves and cares will stop whatever else they’re doing, even if it’s for a moment to listen and be there for you. But someone who doesn’t really care, will only listen when they think it’s convenient.
When your friend or partner would rather pay more attention to their phone or PC than listen to how your day panned out or whatever troubles you’re facing, it’s clearly an indication that they’re not that into your relationship anymore.
YOU CAN’T COUNT ON THEM FOR SUPPORT
Like I said earlier, a relationship is about two or more people being there and supporting each other in one way or another. When it becomes one-sided, it’s not right.
You’re there for some people all the time, but the one time you actually need them to return the favor, they fail you. This is unacceptable.
YOU FEEL LIKE THEY’RE FORCEFULLY LOVING YOU
A relationship is about two people or more who consciously decide to love themselves. There’s freewill, and not force and reminders. When you have to remind your partner of your anniversary or a dinner date, or even to say the little sweet things that make you feel great, it’s is not good for you to be there.