Some ladies are wives even before they turn a wife. It’s now common to see a lady move in with her man even if they are not married. I’ve seen it a couple of times and I just frown at it whenever I come across such scenes.
Ladies see it as a form of security when they move in with their man; they feel that the next thing would be marriage since they got their man already. But funny enough, not so many go on to get married; and that would be a really devastating thing to feel.
I would share with you 7 reasons why you shouldn’t move in early with him until you say “I do” to him.
1. YOU’RE IN HIS SPACE
Whether you like it or not, you are in his space and he might not feel so immediately but after a while he would most definitely feel so. He might need some privacy sometimes but he won’t have it anymore and he knows he isn’t even married. Guys value their space a lot; they need time alone to reflect on so many things and when they no longer have such time, they get frustrated and then they might just pour it out on you.
2. IT SHOWS YOU ARE DESPERATE
Spending a week or some days with him would be cool but moving in totally with him shows desperation on your side. To you, you love your man and that’s a nice feeling but the message you are passing is one of desperation. When you show a man who you are way too eager to get married, it takes the suspense off the whole marriage thing and you might never see the much anticipated ring.
3. YOU ARE DEFINITELY CHASING HIS FRIENDS AWAY
When a guy is single, his best form of company are his friends; they are the ones who keep him excited; but when you move in with him, his friends would most definitely reduce the way they visit. Hanging out with friends would be so minimal and maybe he just isn’t ready for that, and don’t be surprised when he gets frustrated over the bond he’s losing with his friends and pours it all on you. He might see you as the cause of it all.
4. HE MIGHT JUST GET SO USED TO YOU
When you move in with him, you give him that chance to get so used to you and when he gets used to you, you might not like the outcome. When you are in his space with him, he has no room to miss you because you are always there. He might get used to everything you do for him and might even get tired of having s*x with you and when it reaches this stage, it’s just the beginning of the end of that relationship.
5. YOU LOSE YOUR STOCK
This is no exaggeration ladies. When you move in with a guy, you lose your stock where other guys are. You are now like a wife in the eyes of other guys and that’s not a good reputation because you are not married. What if you end up not getting married to him; it would be a big blow to people’s perception about you. People’s perception about you doesn’t really matter but when you have a bad reputation, you might just chase away the right people.
6. YOU PUT TOO MUCH RESPONSIBILITIES ON HIM
When you move in with him, you put extra responsibility on him; his bills go higher, feeding as well; catering for you plus himself might be something he isn’t ready for. And if you are not working, it would only make things worse. Catering for those extra stuffs might just be too much for him.
7. HE ISN’T READY
This to me is the most important reason why you shouldn’t move in with him; if he is ready he would get you a ring but if he isn’t, all you can do is wait for him. Wait for him to be the man; don’t force him to make that move. Moving in with him won’t make him ready; far from it, it would only make him feel pressured. Emotionally, financially, maturity wise as well as his ability to tolerate might just be poor and there is nothing you can do about that.
A lady is supposed to be chased after and not the other way round. If he values you enough to give you that much desired ring, he would give you. But when you hasten things up by moving in with him, you might not like the desired outcome.
Read this piece by Drama to know how to make a man propose to you.
Shawn