Today you and your partner are the best couple ever and tomorrow it’s over and you swear never to return to him or her again. Days or weeks later, you are back again. If this best describes your relationship, it’s time you have a rethink.
I understand that sometimes it’s really difficult to leave someone you truly love but being with someone who is here today and gone tomorrow isn’t really worth it.
Here are 7 reasons why an on-off relationship isn’t good for you
1. THIS ISN’T THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU DESERVE
You deserve better than being in an on-off relationship. Being in an on-off relationship isn’t good for the heart as you are happy today and crying tomorrow. Your heart deserves better than going through this painful cycle.
2. MAYBE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER AREN’T MEANT TO BE
No relationship is perfect but being in an on-off relationship could be a sign you and your partner aren’t meant to be. If you are involved in such relationship, it’s best you call it quits.
3. ON-OFF RELATIONSHIPS ARE TOXIC
An on-off relationship is toxic. When you are constantly in today and out tomorrow, you become less satisfied with the relationship and your commitment to the relationship wanes.
4. THERE IS SOMEONE BETTER FOR YOU
Why be with someone who makes you cry when you can be with someone who makes you laugh? One problem most people in on-off relationships have is that they are scared of leaving. The only way you can truly find someone who will treat you right is by being brave and walking out of that on-off relationship.
5. YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
You can’t be with someone who is here today and gone tomorrow if you truly love yourself. If you love yourself, you won’t run back to someone who hurt you. You can only meet someone who truly loves you if you love yourself first.
6. YOU KEEP MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES
Being in an on-off relationship shows you don’t learn from your mistakes. Stop trying to justify why you keep getting back together and think about the reason why you always break up. For the sake of your heart and sanity, walk away from that on-off relationship and stop repeating the same mistakes.
7. IT SHOWS YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT
Being in an on-off relationship shows you don’t know what you want. If you really know what you want, you won’t break up in the first place. If you really know what you want, you won’t go back to the same bullsh*t. People who know what they want, walk away.
Learn to trust your instincts that keeps telling you to walk away.
Phil