7 MISTAKES MEN MAKE WHEN APPROACHING A LADY

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Walking up to a little should be easy  (according to ladies) but it’s not as easy as the ladies make it look. Ladies don’t just seem to understand why most men keep making some basic mistakes when approaching a lady.

Below are 7 mistakes men make when approaching a lady

1. FEAR OF BEING TURNED DOWN

Only two things can happen when you approach a lady – she either responds positively or negatively. Every man needs to know this. The worse that can happen is she turning you down. You won’t stop being who you are if she turns you down and it’s also not the end of the world too. When you have this mentality, you won’t be scared of being turned down when approaching a lady.

2. USING PICK-UP LINES

Using pick-up lines is a huge ‘no’ for me because it doesn’t show you can depend on your own personality or confidence to start a conversation. Instead of using pick-up lines, I would prefer you keep it simple. Using a simple “Hello, my name is…” would always be better and classy than some silly pick-up lines.

3. APPROACHING HER IN A WRONG PLACE

You shouldn’t expect a positive response from her if you approach her in a wrong place. You should approach a woman in an environment where she’s prepared to be social. A woman walking hurriedly under a scorching sun shouldn’t be approached as she is definitely late for an appointment or probably want to get off the sun. Except you can probably help her with any, approaching her would mean you would get a negative response. Bars, restaurants, gathering of friends etc are always the best places to approach a woman because she is prepared to be social in such environment.

4. APPROACHING HER WHEN YOU ARE DRUNK

You should never approach a woman when you are drunk. She would never take you seriously if you do this. Approaching a woman when you are drunk is a ‘no-no’ because you might end up saying things you would regret later.

5. BRAGGING ABOUT YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS

I see so many guys do this and feel it’s the best way to approach a lady. The simple truth is that any lady you approach this way would get offended and give you a negative response unless she is interested in exploiting you. Please avoid the following sentence when approaching a lady “Hi, I am an engineer and I earn big bucks, drive a cool ride and have a lovely apartment and I believe a lady like you needs all this”. Please never use such when approaching a lady. Never.

6. SPENDING TOO MUCH TIME ON HER FRIEND

Some guys tend to be too nervous when approaching a lady and counter this by talking more with her friend. It’s so wrong. I am not saying you should avoid her friend totally but the major focus should be on the lady you are interested in.

7. TOUCHING HER

It’s wrong to get all touchy with a lady you just approached. Personal space is important when approaching a lady. Just because she reacted positively doesn’t mean it’s a sign to start touching her…please stop that. Unless you get the go ahead from her, maintain a healthy space when approaching a lady.

Phil

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