Nagging is a big relationship problem, it has led to the death of many relationships, and worse still, a lot of people nag and don’t know that they nag; a lot also nag and see no bad in it. Women don’t only nag, men nag also but don’t even know.
Some people believe that nagging would bring out the best in their partner and this mentality is wrong. Nagging kills intimacy, nagging makes communication almost impossible, nagging brings anger and irritation, nagging would chase your partner away and not draw them near, nagging aggravates issues… in summary, nagging is unhealthy for your relationship.
A few weeks ago, a lady commented on one of our articles that she wants to stop being a nag; I totally appreciate her zeal and desire. So I dedicate this article especially to her and every other man and woman out there that wants to kill their nagging habit.
6 ways you can stop nagging
1. RECOGNISE THAT YOU ARE A NAG
You cannot solve a problem you don’t even know you have; the first step in solving any problem is identifying that there is a problem. Many people keep nagging without knowing that they are perpetual nags, and that’s a bigger problem. Once you have identified that you nag too much then you are on your way to killing the bad habit.
2. RECOGNISE THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU NAG
What events make you nag the most? What infuriates you in your partner to nag persistently? What makes you complain easily? What do you always nag about? When do you nag? How long do you nag? How do you start when you want to nag? How do you feel when you nag? If you have answered some of these questions, then the next tip is important.
3. BE IN CONTROL OF MOMENTS
Try to take charge of yourself, and always be conscious of yourself. Practice makes perfect; it might not work in the first few days or even weeks, but it would eventually. Try to be happy at all times, do things that would make your mind relaxed, do things you love. Take control of your mind, practice yoga if possible, and always be in control of moments.
4. LEARN TO LET GO
If you want to stop nagging, you have to learn to overlook things and you have to learn to walk away, and learn to let go— let go of previous experiences and encounters and things your partner have done wrong. You need to learn to let go if you want to stop nagging.
5. QUIT ON WHO’S RIGHT AND WRONG
‘I’m right’, ‘you’re wrong’; these are the words that make nagging feel right and irreplaceable. Just forget about who’s right and who’s wrong. Rather replace it with how much you love your partner and cherish your relationship, and how much you would want your relationship to be the right one for you. If you keep thinking about who’s right and who isn’t, you would just keep nagging.
6. LEARN TO LOVE AND SEE THE GOOD IN YOUR PARTNER
If you always see the bad in your partner, you would always be a nag; the more you see the bad, the more you would nag. But if you see the good in your partner, you would nag just a little; the more you love that person, the lesser you would nag. Learn to appreciate what your partner does, learn to always love that person even when you feel angry, learn to keep tabs of the good that person has done rather than the bad. By this, you would have a much calmer attitude towards your partner.