A lot of shy men prefer to hide behind their insecurities rather than talk to a woman they really admire. They watch from a distance as other men talk to women with great aplomb and all they can do is wish.
So what’s really stopping you from walking up to her when you know deeply you want to? Ending the habits that make you shy isn’t as difficult as it seems; if you make up your mind and take the right steps, you would stop being shy with women.
These tips would help you:
1. BE POSITIVE AND CONFIDENT
It all starts from you; it all starts from within. See yourself as someone women would value, appreciate your self-worth. Confidence is an attribute women are attracted to, and you look so empty and valueless when you are timid. Start with your mindset and see yourself as you want the ladies to see you.
2. BE COMFORTABLE TALKING TO PEOPLE
Start practising talking to people; not just women but men as well. The more you talk to people, the more you cultivate that social value, and in due time you would see that interaction isn’t as hard as it seems.
3. STOP WITH THE UNREALISTIC FANTASIES
Men who keep fantasizing about one girl over and over again are the ones who would keep being shy of approaching her. Not that it’s bad to have a crush on a lady, but do not let fantasies overshadow the real world. Don’t pick one lady and become overly obsessed with her; this would only make you take many wrong decisions.
4. APPROACH WOMEN THAT DON’T INTIMIDATE YOU
This might derogatory but it isn’t. After building your confidence and learning to socialise with people and you still feel you aren’t confident enough of talking to that lady that you admire, then practice talking to women that don’t intimidate you. Men are at their worst when talking to women that make them feel inferior and are at their best when they feel she’s at his level or even inferior to him.
Talk to women that you aren’t scared of and build your confidence as well as social skills.
5. DON’T HESITATE
Hesitation is another thing that you shouldn’t give room to or else it would weaken your zeal to talk to her. When you hesitate, you stop yourself and give room for doubts which would create a blockade in your mindset that would keep building each time you hesitate.
Learn not to hesitate; the best time to always do it is now.
6. DON’T HAVE TOO MANY EXPECTATIONS
This tip goes alongside the third tip; cut off unnecessary fantasies and huge expectations. Don’t think because you are now confident of talking to her, things would pan out smoothly and you would win her heart easily. No! Talk to her without having expectations and things would become easier from that point onwards; take things as they come rather than mount undue pressure on yourself.
These six tips would go a long way in giving you that mental edge to talk to any lady of your choice. Stop waiting for luck to talk to that girl of your dreams; all the luck you need is right with you.
Phil