Engaging a lady is the last step before marriage. After dating her for a period of time, you might get the urge that the time is right to take the relationship to the next level.
However, there are some necessary things you ought to sort out before asking that lady to come into your life.
I’ve seen situations where a man proposes to a lady he cares about and becomes stranded much after.
There are some important things that should be considered and sorted out before proposing to her.
1. YOUR FINANCES
Your finances are highly important and should be given huge consideration before proposing to her. You don’t have to be the richest man on earth before you propose to that lady you love, but your finances ought to be right as well as your flow of income. A lot of men make this mistake a lot; they propose marriage to a lady and two years down the line, nothing seems to be coming forth. An engagement shouldn’t be an insurance policy to keeping a lady you care about; it’s done when you are ready to take the relationship to the next level — and truth be told, money is an important part of marriage.
2. THAT SHE’S REALLY THE ONE
This is another highly important factor to consider before proposing marriage to a lady. Lots of men propose to a lady even when they aren’t sure; you shouldn’t let infatuations becloud your judgement.
You shouldn’t rush to make a decision that would last you the rest of your life; you ought to be sure that she’s the one you are willing to spend the rest of your life with.
3. THAT OTHER LADIES ARE OFF
The fact that you are engaged doesn’t mean you should still flirt around with other ladies — yes, you aren’t married yet, but you’ve made a huge commitment to marry someone you deem special. Every other flirtatious relationship should be off-limits from this point onward.
4. DID YOU ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER?
This one is a given; if the relationship was sour and full of quarrels, fighting and arguments then the marriage wouldn’t fare better. Assess how your relationship was before thinking of proposing marriage; loving her isn’t enough — was your relationship with her successful or not? That’s a more important question to ask.
5. ARE YOU MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY READY?
Marriage they say is no child’s play, and that is true in every bit of the word. You ought to be mentally and emotionally mature to have a successful marriage with that lady. Do you feel you are ready to handle the mental and emotional aspect that comes with marriage?
6. IS SHE READY?
The five previous points are centred on the man, but it shouldn’t be all about you. Is she also ready to be wife? Do you think she’s mentally and emotionally ready to start a family with you? This is also important.
Having sorted out these six questions then you can go on to propose to her.