The foundation of a good marriage is often laid on the compatibility of a couple. You must be with the right person for your marriage to stand any chance of being smooth and lasting.
A man who wouldn’t make a good husband often shows it from the courtship stage of a relationship— from the way he relates (with) and treats others to the way he treats you or handles general issues of life and if you’re smart enough, you’ll see things clearly.
Now, let’s take a detailed look at those signs that suggest a man is a potentially bad husband.
1. HE LACKS AMBITION AND DRIVE
A man who has no ambition in life is as good as one without purpose, goals, dreams and focus. He has no laid down plans for tomorrow and makes no effort to grow himself from his current position. People like this often have no jobs; instead, they sit around and delude themselves in the hope that a miracle will come their way at some point in their lives. Even if they do get a job, they make no further efforts to grow in their careers.
Marrying a man like this is bad for you and your children because his negative energy and attitude may rub off on you and your children. And apart from that, you may have to suffer major financial difficulties as a result of his laziness and attitude towards life.
2. HE SHOWS DISRESPECT FOR WOMEN
He may not particularly be disrespectful to you because he wants you to believe he’s good, but from the way he relates with other women (his sisters, colleagues and strangers), you’ll be able to tell something isn’t right. He may show violent tendencies towards women or use derogatory remarks in reference to them. This is a sign he may also be the same to you in future.
3. HE IS AN INCORRIGIBLE CHEAT
Not to endorse Cheating in any way, but I think we can all agree that majority of people have at one time or another cheated on their partner at least once. Maybe not sexually, but cheating is cheating, right? So I think it’s pardonable if it’s just that one time and they show honest signs of change afterwards. However, it’s totally unacceptable for any woman to continue to forgive and condone a promiscuous lifestyle from any man, even after it’s been proven that he’s not willing to let that part of him go.
Marrying a man like this is like signing your own heartbreak warrant because for as long as you’re with him, you’ll have to contend with other women for his love and attention— add that to the embarrassment that comes with it too.
P. S: Real men don’t cheat.
4. HE’S STINGY
It’s true that women should not depend on a man for anything, but then, even as a working class woman, there may be occasions when you’re not rich enough to take care of your every need. At a time like this, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in going to your man to seek financial support when you know he can help. If you have a man who hardly spends his money on you or complains terribly even though he has enough money to, I wouldn’t advise you to get yourself involved with him because he clearly doesn’t respect you enough and the disappointments and stinginess will likely continue even after marriage.
5. HE’S EASILY INFLUENCED (HE HAS NO MIND OF HIS OWN)
A man who is easily influenced is bad for marriage because he’ll always tend to allow other people (family and friends) make his life’s decisions for him. People like this have no mind of their own and choose to take actions pertaining to their life based on what people tell them. Even minor misunderstandings between you two are taken to outsiders with people like this.
The implication of marrying a man of this nature is that your marriage and happiness is left hanging in the balance and at the mercy of other people.
6. HE’S A BAD MONEY MANAGER
As a man, it is proper for you to know your needs, set them in their most pressing order, allocate some of your income to them and have some savings left for unforeseen contingencies. A man who cannot get his priorities right and does not save for tomorrow is not ideal for marriage because clearly, his future is uncertain.
So, you’ve seen it all, ladies. Chose your husband and potential father to your children wisely.
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