6 SIGNS YOU AREN’T HIS FUTURE WIFE

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Most times, a lot of women focus on “Am I the one for him?” “Is he going to marry me?” And forget about important signs that show she shouldn’t get married to that guy.

Some women are just about getting married to the extent that they can marry just about any man they deem okay, irrespective of how they feel and how the relationship is — marriage is all that matters to some. But is this right? I hardly think so.

When these signs below exist in your relationship as a woman, you should be careful about pushing it further for marriage. Not every woman who gets married becomes happily married.

1. HE DOESN’T VALUE YOUR COUNSEL

If the man you are looking to get married to doesn’t value your counsel, or doesn’t at least consider it, then you are probably heading to a marriage that you wouldn’t make any input other than being a wife.

If marriage is about two people coming together, it has to be two different personalities coming as one, not one person being shut out. A man who values you would value your counsel even when he doesn’t agree with it. You should be valued in your home.

2. HE DOESN’T LISTEN TO YOU

Does he listen to you? Does he pay attention to you? Is he someone who would provide a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on when you need it? If he doesn’t, you should be careful about where you are heading to.

3. YOU BEG FOR MARRIAGE

A lot of women beg their man for marriage, but I feel it’s wrong — totally wrong. If you are with a man who values you just as much as you value him, you wouldn’t have to beg him to marry you — he knows he has to.

However, entering this kind of marriage where you beg for it would mean you devalue yourself — and this is dangerous.

4. YOU’RE LIKE AN OUTSIDER

When he treats you like an outsider; you are unaware of his plans and he doesn’t value you, you should be careful of getting married to such a man.

5. YOU AREN’T EVEN SURE HE LOVES YOU

It could even be that you are unsure of his love; maybe he’s here today and there tomorrow, maybe he isn’t consistent, maybe he doesn’t even show that he loves you. Getting married to a man you are unsure of could pose problems.

6. YOU PLAY SECOND FIDDLE

When you have to play second fiddle in your relationship with the man you are supposed to get married to, you ought to think twice about it.

You should be first choice in his life and first choice in his plans.

 

Being his future wife should go beyond just getting married; it should be about getting married to someone you can build a good home with. It should be about getting married where you would be appreciated.

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