It’s only normal to want to call an ex after a breakup; you’ve been emotionally tied to that person and you can’t just imagine your life without them.
Days and weeks after a breakup might make you feel incomplete without your partner, and there’s usually that urge to call that person, even though you were the one wronged and hurt in the relationship.
If your ex hurt you and wronged you in the relationship, never pick your phone to call or text that ex…these are reasons why:
1. YOU LOOK CHEAP AND DESPERATE
You look cheap and desperate when you force yourself upon someone who doesn’t need you — and guess what this does to you? It makes you lose value the more in their eyes.
2. YOU WON’T STILL BE LOVED
Calling that ex, texting back that ex and trying to bring back a wrong relationship wouldn’t make them love you at the end — so why try it?
3. YOU LOSE VALUE OF YOURSELF
In literal terms, if you love yourself, you’d want what’s best for you. But calling back an ex who didn’t treat you right and who has left you for another only shows how much value you have lost of yourself.
4. YOU HURT YOURSELF THE MORE
You open up multiple channels to hurt yourself when you call back that ex. You give your ex an opportunity to ridicule you and turn you down again, and you also hold yourself back and open yourself to more wounds.
5. YOU ARE THE GEM HERE
You are gold and you should treat yourself thus. You’re the one with a good heart, you value love and want to be loved, you are the one who wants a good relationship and work hard to make a relationship good; so you don’t need someone who doesn’t appreciate these things. See yourself as gold and a rare gem, and be with someone who would appreciate the gem in you.
6. YOU SHOULD MOVE ON
Move on, carry on with your life, and tell yourself you deserve better. Delete that contact from your phone and carry on with your life.
Are you thinking about calling that ex who dumped you, who stopped appreciating you and who made you feel empty? That’s the worst punishment you could give yourself; you deserve better than that.
ViV