I’ve seen the not too beautiful women keep the good men, while the beautiful ones can’t keep a man. Either men don’t find them attractive or men quickly lose their attraction for them.
So what then is the problem? Why should a woman be beautiful and still remain unattractive to men?
Desperation kills value and a lose in value will kill the attraction; no matter how beautiful you are, once you become desperate for a man, he’d lose value of you and find you unattractive. Desperation is the root cause that has made many women become unattractive.
2. LOW SELF-ESTEEM
How do you feel about yourself? What do you see when you look at yourself in the mirror?
Your life really is like a mirror; people can easily sense how you feel about yourself, and when you don’t rate yourself highly, people won’t rate you too.
Are you someone people can trust or are you deceitful? This really matters, because men value women they can trust; they can flirt with you all they want, but when it comes to taking the next step, they wouldn’t — if they don’t trust you enough.
4. FLAWS/BAD HABITS
Your flaws/habits could kill people’s perception and opinion of you; it could even kill how they feel about you. This is a major reason attractive women are sometimes deemed unattractive; their inner person isn’t beautiful, they are so ugly on the inside that it then affects their beautiful self. This is why we always preach on Elcrema that you ought to make yourself a better person each day; be the better version of yourself every day.
Drama queens never have long-lasting beauty; they may look extremely beautiful but after weeks and months with them, a man could find them unattractive because of the drama they bring — complaining, bitterness, always right attitude, rudeness, self-centredness, nagging etc.
6. YOU’RE NOT INDEPENDENT
Men are complicated creatures really; sometimes we might want you to need us, but then we value you less when we find you needy — and that’s the irony of it. Inasmuch as a man wants you to need him, he somehow still wants you to be independent, and that’s when he’d value you more.
In other words, be comfortable in your skin and don’t necessarily look for a man to complete you, rather look for a man to accept you. Men easily get irritated when you’re too needy, clingy and dependent. But they’d value you more when you have your own life to live too.
Are you beautiful and still unattractive? Or your attractiveness doesn’t last? These reasons above might just be why.