I promised to bring this topic after writing 7 Questions to ask yourself when your relationship isn’t working. It’s important to ask questions to both yourself and your partner when that relationship isn’t working. The first person to ask though is yourself and after you have asked yourself those 7 questions, you should then ask your partner some important questions.
At every point in time, what most relationships just need is clarity; clarity is like inhaler for an asthma patient; it brings relief and is in every bit a soothing guide.
After asking yourself questions, the next questions you ask your partner would most definitely provide clarity in that relationship.
Q#1 WHAT SHOULD I IMPROVE ON?
This question creates room for further discussion; it opens your partner up further more and with that you would know what you should do on your part and from the discussion, your partner would also know the decision to take so as to improve the relationship. Some questions in itself are answers and this question is among such. This question shows humility and zeal on your part in making that relationship work.
Q#2 WHAT WOULD YOU DO TOO TO SAVE THIS RELATIONSHIP?
The first two questions were all about you as well as the previous 7 on questions to ask when your relationship isn’t working. So at this stage, enough of you; you aren’t in a relationship with yourself. Your partner should be able to say what he/she can do to save the relationship too. It shouldn’t only be about you, you both should work on your flaws.
Q#3 WOULD YOU APPRECIATE MY OWN EFFORTS?
It shouldn’t be all about you making efforts and your partner wouldn’t appreciate; that really would tire any soul at all. Be sure to know that your partner would value your efforts in saving the relationship or is just looking for a cheap way out which brings us to the next question.
Q#4 DO YOU STILL WANT THIS RELATIONSHIP?
This question is very important and it answers a whole lot of questions in the process. If the answer is no then maybe it’s already too late to work on the relationship but if it is yes then all other questions remains valid. Most times some people act without caring about their relationship so as just to leave that relationship, so this question would reveal a lot. The next and final question goes side by side with this one.
Q#5 DO YOU STILL LOVE ME?
This question is the last question you need an answer to; if there is no love then everything you are doing would be futile. And you really have to know if your partner is actually sincere about his/her answer. If the love between you guys is still there, the zeal to work that relationship would still be there but when there is no love anymore, then there is no need really to work on that relationship. Love should be the ultimate in every relationship.
I believe with these 5 questions and the previous 7 questions to ask yourself when your relationship isn’t working, you would make headway in that relationship.