Not every guy that walks up to a lady is actually interested in her; men come for different reasons; it could be sex, mere companionship, pleasure, fun and a whole lot of other things.
The difference between what a man wants and what a woman wants are the major things that make a man wrong for a woman. If a woman wants a serious relationship and a man wants just a fling then he’s a wrong man for that woman.
More often than not, men disguise what they really want from a lady just in a bid to get the lady. Below are some of the things every lady should take note of in order to stop being used by the wrong men.
1. HEAL YOUR OLD WOUNDS
It’s important for old wounds to heal before you move into a new relationship. Old wounds can either make you fall for the wrong man or say no to the right man. Making such decisions when your heart and emotions are in the wrong shape wouldn’t augur well for you. You make better relationship decisions when your heart is in the right shape.
2. NEVER BE DESPERATE
Desperation is one thing that makes women fall for the wrong men. When a woman is desperate for a relationship or marriage, she becomes more prone to being used by men, and she also becomes more likely to meet the wrong men who are only there for the wrong reasons.
Desperation makes you look cheap and it exposes your flaws too, making you more susceptible to the wrong men.
3. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN DIVERSE EMOTIONS
First and foremost, you should be able to discern between how you feel when you love someone and when it’s lust. Also, it’s even more important to discern a man who loves you and one who’s just lusting after you.
When you have the ability to discern between emotions, it would become easier to pick the right man.
4. ENJOY BEING SINGLE
When you can’t enjoy being single, it could lead to desperation and you in turn end up with the wrong person. But you become loved when you love yourself; when you enjoy being comfortable with yourself and live your life without worries, you tend to be more positive, and that would attract good men to you rather than wrong men.
5. BE YOURSELF
Being yourself is also an important trait to live by if you want to attract the right men into your life rather than the wrong men. A lot of women live a life of pretence in order to attract the right men and this is one tactic that backfires most of the time. Live your life, be yourself and the good men would see the good in you.
A lot of women complain of often getting hurt and being with the wrong men, but it’s mostly about how you live that would determine who would get attracted to you.
ShawnÂ