As humans, it’s normal to get angry but when you in a relationship it’s important you know how to handle the anger so you don’t ruin your relationship. Anger has destroyed so many relationships so it’s important you know how to deal with it. I have also lost a relationship due to anger and it really did hurt. I won’t want you to go through the trauma I went through so I recommend you follow the tips I would give you and save your relationship from the harmful effects of anger.
REMEMBER TO BE CALM
Iron sharpens iron so do anger. Try to be calm when your partner is angry because the calmer you remain when your partner is angry the quicker your partner would become calm. It’s difficult to remain calm when your partner is shouting at you especially when you know you are right but it’s best you try to remain calm.
Trust me, shouting back would cost you your loved one at the end of the day. I shouted back in the past cos I felt I was right and I was the man but I guess it didn’t take me anywhere. So I advise you remain calm and only talk when you know your partner is calm.
JUST LISTEN
Never underestimate the power of listening. Your partner wants to feel heard and all they need from you is that you just be quiet and listen. Listening isn’t a big deal really but it’s so difficult for us to just listen especially the men. We always feel we are the man so why listen when she should just do as we please but it’s so wrong. Listening to your partner makes her feel you take her seriously so try the listening technique.
DEAL WITH THE ANGER NOW
It’s very important you deal with the anger the moment you notice it. When you notice your partner is angry, it’s important you do something about it immediately. Ask questions; try to know why your partner is angry, leaving your partner with the anger could make things worse.
I remember back then how I would always tell myself whenever she is done being angry, she can talk to me. The truth is it kept piling until the day she couldn’t take it anymore and she walked away. You won’t wanna end up the way I did. Address the anger now so you won’t regret tomorrow.
SEEK FOR PEACE
Have you ever wondered the power of the word sorry? Sorry is a powerful word that calms. Learn to say sorry. Always try to make peace when your partner is angry. Say sorry; acknowledge your faults and you would be amazed at your partner’s reaction. Don’t be too proud to say sorry.
FEEL YOUR PARTNER’S PAIN
When your partner is angry, they want you to see things from their point of view. Sometimes saying ‘’I understand why you angry’’ could be what your partner wanna hear. They want you to acknowledge their feelings and it’s advisable you so things don’t escalate.
Several times, I have calmed my partner using this technique. It works like magic. To be sincere with you, sometimes I don’t see the need to especially when I feel she is wrong and I am right but I just act like I understand why she is angry and everything becomes okay.
Don’t forget to share. Be sociable.
Jake