It’s easy to see someone in an unhappy relationship; it seems like unhappy relationships exist even more than happy ones.
But, what quite bothers me about failed relationships is that the affected partners never learn valuable lessons from the previous relationship and move on to the next relationship making similar mistakes and expecting different results.
Have you ever thought why a relationship failed, just from your own part? Forget about your partner and for a second think about where you got it wrong.
Everyone has this background belief that they are perfect and their partner isn’t.
These 5 reasons could just be how you contributed in making your relationship crash.
1. YOU DIDN’T LEARN TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER
Everyone has different communication patterns; the way Jack talks, listens and understands could be very different from the way Bruce talks, listens and understands. These two might have different personality traits and different modes of communication, so it’s important to know how best to have an effective communication with them.
Every man and woman has his or her own way of communicating — and not understanding your partner’s mode of communication can lead to frequent frictions in the relationship.
2. YOU TRY TO BUILD THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE IN YOUR HEAD
Some people have an idea of how a relationship should be and how their relationship should look like; they prefer to live in that world of fantasy rather than accept reality.
Bringing this image of how a relationship ought to be rather than building a good relationship with your partner could make your relationship be continually filled with tensions.
3. YOU SEE THINGS ONLY FROM YOUR OWN POINT OF VIEW
It’s easy to view things from your own point of view and believe that it’s right. But that shows selfishness and one-sidedness and this is a reason many relationships experience frictions.
4. YOU SILENTLY FORGET ABOUT YOUR PARTNER’S NEEDS
This is mostly common among married couples. With the increased responsibilities that come with marriage, it’s easy to forget about your partner’s needs — emotional and physical needs. People tend to forget how to play their roles towards their partner, and this could lead to breakdown in the marriage / relationship.
5. YOU TRY TO TAKE CONTROL
Who deserves to take control of the relationship?
Does anyone really have to take control of the relationship? Of course not! Couples ought to have compromise and also build understanding between each other and have a good understanding of each other’s roles in the relationship / marriage. When this happens, there would be no need to seek control; trying to take control of your relationship could only ruin it in the long run.
I wish we can all sit back after a failed relationship and for once, just think, think about where you went wrong.