So many make their relationships just about them without even knowing; a relationship can hardly survive under such circumstances.
You might be wondering how one can make a relationship to be just about that person and if it’s really possible. It’s actually possible; when you make all relationship decisions on your own and see no real value in what your partner thinks; when you try to win every argument then you are making your relationship just about you; when you put yourself first before your partner then your relationship is just about you.
I would share 5 reasons why your relationship shouldn’t just be about you:
1. IT KILLS EVERY FOUNDATION IN THAT RELATIONSHIP
Decision making is one important aspect in a relationship; it’s like the foundation of that relationship. When one partner wants to be the all-in-all in a relationship and make all the decisions in the relationship, it would kill every other aspect of that relationship and the relationship would begin to crack gradually till no one can do anything about it anymore.
2. YOU MIGHT LOSE YOUR PARTNER
When you try to make your relationship to be just about you, you stand a risk of losing your partner. No one wants to be in a relationship where they would be bullied and making your relationship to be just about you mean you are bullying your partner.
3. YOU MIGHT PLANT LITTLE BAD SEEDS IN THAT RELATIONSHIP
This is one big risk of making your relationship about you; you might begin to plant bad seeds that would eventually ruin the love in that relationship. Quarrels, anger, malice and even enmity are some bad seeds that might overthrow the love in that relationship. Even a calm partner would at some point lose his/her calm in that relationship.
4. YOU CAN NEVER DO IT ALONE
No man is an island, no relationship is an island and you definitely cannot have a fruitful relationship when you make certain things in that relationship about you. Making your relationship about you kills everything a relationship stands for; there is a reason why a spouse is called a ‘better half’ and that is what makes a relationship special, because when one is your better half then the relationship would be about both couples rather than one.
5. YOU KILL YOUR PARTNER’S CONFIDENCE
When a relationship becomes about just one person then you kill the confidence level of the other partner in a relationship. No one wants to be in a relationship where they would be subdued, it doesn’t only hurts but it can as well kill the confidence of that partner.
Never make that mistake of thinking that you can do it all in a relationship, never make that mistake of thinking that you are always right; you would gradually jeopardise the trust and love that the relationship stands for.
Shawn