A lot of marriages and relationships have been turned into a battlefield by a lot of couples, and they don’t even know this.
A lot of people see their partner as the enemy, and a lot of people fight their partner to make their relationship work; that’s the biggest height of irony and self-deceit.
This article will only expose you to certain battles you are fighting in your relationship that you shouldn’t even be fighting at all.
Why do you really seek control of your relationship? What will you do with the control? Why do you want to be in control always? Why can’t you just be a partner in a partnership and want the best for the team and not the individual?
2. WHO’S RIGHT OR WHO’S WRONG?
Does it really matter? Okay, you are right, how then will that affect your relationship? A relationship isn’t a battlefield of who’s right and wrong, and unfortunately that’s the battle a lot of people are fighting everyday in their relationships and marriage.
3. WHO HAS DONE MORE?
The fact that you are keeping count of what you’ve done and what your partner hasn’t done says a lot about you in that relationship. Your relationship will always be a battlefield when you consciously keep count of what you are doing and what your partner isn’t doing.
A common battle a lot of people tend to fight in their relationship is the battle of justifying their wrong acts and their mistakes. Why do you have to justify your mistakes and your wrong decisions? Why can’t you just apologise and move on?
5. FIGHTING FOR ATTENTION
There are two sides to this; if you’re starving your partner of attention, then you need to get your acts right, and if you are striving for all the attention and not giving the same to your partner, then you need to get your acts right.
Attention is a very crucial element in a relationship, and both partners deserve it.
People only go to war when there’s hatred and animosity; where there’s love, there can’t be battles. So if you are having one battle or the other with your partner, you need to ask yourself: What are we really fighting for?