Money quarrels/arguments are found in almost every marriage out there, and it could be a good thing or a bad thing depending on how couples handle the situation.
We all have different personality traits and it’s our personality traits that most times determine how we would use money; whether you are a frugal spender or a luxury spender depends on your personality traits. This could really be a huge problem if couples go about it the wrong way.
A 2001 California State University study found that finances play a minor role in marriage breakups after collecting data from 2000 marriages between a 12-year period. So how you handle your money arguments could go a long way in making your marriage either healthy or unhealthy.
4 possible ways to achieve the healthy marriage financially:
1. DISAGREE TO AGREE
While this is easier said than done, it is all the same very achievable. When you argue about money, it shouldn’t be just about outwitting your partner and making your perception the dominant one; rather it should be about resolution, and having respect for each other’s opinion no matter how different it sounds. When there is respect for each other’s opinion then reaching a common goal wouldn’t be too difficult.
2. AIM TO MAKE DECISIONS AS A COUPLE
One major reason couples quarrel unfairly about money is that they think more about the individual than the marriage. After living alone and making your own financial decisions, it really wouldn’t be easy to live with another opinion. Before any major financial decision is made in your marriage, your spouse has to be aware; you can’t make decisions as easily as you did when you were alone.
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