It’s normal to feel bad about losing someone you’ve cherished and gotten used to after a while, especially if they are the one who just upped and decided to leave your life– in fact, the feeling can be devastating, but then, it is said that there’s always a positive in every situation, no matter how bad it may appear to be.
People tend to see only the devastation in a bad break up, but forget to see that it actually may be a blessing in disguise; an opportunity to experience newer and better things, that probably wouldn’t have come had it not happened.
Now, take a lot at the many reasons why a break up may not be bad after all.
1. IT PROVIDES YOU WITH AN OPPORTUNITY TO REEVALUATE AND REDISCOVER YOURSELF
Sometimes, we just don’t know what we really want and tend to go after the wrong thing until we’re hit with some sort of reality check. Being in the wrong relationship can make you forget your real priorities and goals in life (especially, if the person doesn’t encourage and motivate you in any way), and until you snap out of it, you may never find fulfilment. In a situation like this, a break up may be the perfect catalyst for self – rediscovery. It will offer you an opportunity to sit down and think about those things that really set your soul on fire and pursue them.
2. YOU LEARN TO BE A BETTER LOVER
No single person is perfect. With each passing experience (good or bad), you pick up one or two lessons, and learn to handle things better in future. Your once ‘good’ relationship may have come to an abrupt end, but you can take solace in the fact that you now know your wrongs, and when you get into another relationship, you would know how to avoid the same mistakes that cost you the former.
3. IT PROVIDES YOU WITH AN OPPORTUNITY TO MINGLE AND MEET NEW PEOPLE… MAYBE SOMEONE EVEN BETTER
When you’re in a serious (exclusive) relationship, it’s sometimes difficult to go out with friends to have fun and meet new people because you always want to be there for your partner, just to make them happy, but once you break up from the relationship, it’s a whole different story. You become free to go out, hang out with your friends and meet new people, and who knows? You may even get to meet your real soul mate.
4. IT’LL HELP YOU MAKE A BETTER CHOICE OF YOUR FUTURE PARTNER
The reason why a lot of relationships go sour in the first place is because too many people tend to fall for the wrong persons. Most of us just care about companionship and sex, that we tend to accept just any one that comes our way, and fail to thoroughly assess them. A bad breakup, however, would help us realize the importance of this first rule of dating, so that in future before we go into another relationship, we’d first of all, set our relationship goals right, and look for the kind of partner that fits into those plans, in order to achieve the desired outcome.
Do not forget, a bad breakup is not the end of the world. It’s just a temporary situation that is meant to make you better. So do not sit and sulk, just take the positives from it, get up, and keep going.
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Elcrema this week is a blessing to me