Saying ‘I do’ is usually a dream come true for many people, and more often than not the excitement that comes with the feeling of getting married overshadows certain realities.
People are in a rush or frenzy to get married that they forget to not just ask themselves some simple questions that are really very important.
There are some simple both highly important questions that everyone should try to answer before getting married.
1. WHY DO I WANT TO GET MARRIED TO HIM/HER?
Knowing why you want to get married to your partner is an important step in the right direction. This is a question you should answer sincerely; are you getting married to that person because you’re in love with him or her or because he/she is just the only option? Are you getting married to him or her because you feel you would make a lovely couple or you’re getting married for other reasons?
This is a question you should be able to answer, and this question would also help shape your attitude and desire when married. The kid who knows and understands the reason why he’s in school would always do better than the one who just goes to school for the sake of it. This can also be said about the person who understands his or her reasons for getting married.
2. WOULD I BE ABLE STICK MY NECK THROUGH THE ROUGH TIMES?
There is usually the ‘for better for worse’ vow or quote associated with marriage and this usually comes. To a certain extent, that rough patch must eventually come, so it’s important to know if you can stick your neck for that partner of yours through that time.
The answer to the first question would also tell if you would be able to stick through the rough times. Most marriages end prematurely because they let the tough times swallow them up.
3. WOULD I BE COMFORTABLE WITH HIS/HER FLAWS?
Everyone has flaws, and the best marriages are the ones in which partners are comfortable with each other’s flaws. Be sure to know if you’re comfortable with your partner’s flaws or you might not be able to live with it when married.
4. ARE WE COMMITTED TO EACH OTHER?
Commitment makes a relationship/marriage a happy one and a lack of it leaves gaps that would ruin your relationship/marriage.
While dating, how committed were you to your partner and vice versa? Now that you’re both preparing for marriage, how committed are you both to the marriage?
Couples who are always committed to each other eventually end up making things work. How committed are you and your partner?
The amount of divorce in marriages is increasing each year and this is an indicator that something is definitely wrong somewhere.
Getting married shouldn’t just be the goal anymore but staying married is more important and these tips would help prepare or at least question your mindset before you get married.