Being heartbroken isn’t a nice feeling. It’s like being in a tunnel with no hope of seeing the light. Sometimes you just wish the world would just end that minute.
We have all had our fair share of heartbreaks but there are lots of positives you can take from being heartbroken.
We can all admit that no matter how bad and terrible we felt after our hearts got broken, there are valuable lessons we learned from being heartbroken
Below are valuable lessons you learn when your heart gets broken
1. LOVE ISN’T ENOUGH
We all have made that mistake of thinking all that is needed for a relationship to work is love. Love is important in any relationship but it is never enough. You also need respect, maturity, ability to compromise and being able to have your own space for a relationship to work. We learn this after a heartbreak.
2. YOU DISCOVER YOUR TRUE FRIENDS
Getting heartbroken teaches us who our real friends really are. Your true friends will be there for you when you get heartbroken to comfort you and stand by you as you work through your pain. Those friends who aren’t there for you at this lowest point in your life aren’t meant to be in your life.
3. HEARTBREAK TEACHES YOU PHYSICAL PAIN ISN’T THE WORST KIND OF PAIN
Physical pain isn’t the worst type of pain in this world and this is something a heartbreak teaches us. You take an aspirin for a headache but only time heals a heartbreak. When you are heartbroken, the pain you feel is so deep and you wonder if the pain would ever end. Laurell K. Hamilton sums it up with this quote: “There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
4. IT’S A BLESSING OF DISGUISE
I remember how I once felt losing an ex I loved so much was the end of the world for me. I felt I couldn’t get a woman that would compare with her. I felt hurt. That heartbreak taught me that sad endings are just happy new beginnings in disguise. I met the most amazing woman in the world months later and sometimes I am grateful my heart got broken because maybe I wouldn’t have known life had something better for me. Heartbreak teaches you that some doors are meant to be shut for a better one to open.
5. NOTHING IN THIS WORLD IS PERMANENT
Another valuable lesson we learn from heartbreak is that nothing in this world is permanent. People change, situations change and so do you. This is why it’s really important you appreciate every moment and make it count. Heartbreak teaches you that nothing lasts forever so you have to make the most of what you have today.
6. YOUR GOALS WILL BECOME CLEARER
I remember how I focused on myself and made big decisions that helped my career. That pain we get from being heartbroken can really help us get focused on what is really important to us. I know lots of people who excelled in their careers after a heartbreak. Heartbreaks teaches us to be open-minded and open-hearted.
7. LIFE GOES ON
When you are with someone and so much in love with that person, you just believe everything starts and ends with that person. After you get heartbroken, you will understand that life goes on with or without that person. A heartbreak will make you realise that time stops for no one and life goes on even when you are not ready.
This quote below just sums up my thought
“I love you and I’d rather be happy with you than without you but with or without you, life still goes on. I’ll be OK.”
So heartbreak or not, life doesn’t stop for anyone.
8. YOU LEARN TO JUDGE PEOPLE BY THEIR ACTIONS
A heartbreak teaches you to judge people by their actions and not by what they say or by what you feel about them. Heartbreak teaches you that you can’t trust in words of love alone, you also need to see some action. A heartbreak will teach you it isn’t safe to trust on your feelings completely. So you would learn to judge people by their actions also and not entirely based on your feelings towards them.
9. YOU WILL DISCOVER HOW STRONG YOU ARE
There’s a mental strength you never know you have until you get heartbroken and overcome it. A heartbreak will teach you to be brave and learn to take care of yourself. A heartbreak will teach you that sometimes you need to apply the quote below in your life sometimes
“Self-first isn’t selfishness.”
10. A HEARTBREAK PREPARES YOU FOR THE NEXT RELATIONSHIP
After my heartbreak, I learnt some valuable lessons. I discovered some mistakes I made with my ex and I made sure I didn’t make the same mistakes with the amazing woman in my life today. This made me become a better person for the amazing woman I am spending the rest of my life with. Heartbreaks make us stronger and wiser. A heartbreak forces you to re-evaluate what was missing in your previous relationship so you can choose more wisely in your next relationship.
11. HEARTBREAK TEACHES US PEOPLE HAVE TWO FACES
‘Good and evil are two sides of the same coin’ is a popular adage that also applies to relationships. That guy or lady you loved so much that seemed like the best person in the world can become evil and the most hated person tomorrow. The same person you kissed and shared your bed with today might be someone that irritates you tomorrow.