Nobody is perfect. As sweet as relationships get, they also sometimes, suffer setbacks and pain and disappointments. It’s either you’re the one passing them off, or they do. But then, like the say, it’s only natural to also forgive, and let go no matter how bad it is; unless of course, you’re completely done with the relationship.
Anyway, if you’ve wronged your partner, and tried to get them to forgive you to no avail, maybe you should try the following ways.
OFFER DEEP APOLOGY
There’s a huge difference between apologising and deeply doing so. Deep apologies come from the depth of the heart. Anyone can tell when they hear it.
MAKE IT REAL
I’m not saying you should apologise when you do not mean it, I’m saying apologise with all the realness you have in you. Unless you look emotionally distraught, they won’t take you seriously.
GO BEARING GIFTS
Sometimes, a simple “I’m sorry” works, but other times, it doesn’t, and you actually need to go the extra mile of ‘watering the ground’. If you do it with a gift, it might be easier.
SAY IT AGAIN…IN A TEXT
I’m not urging you to send a first time apology text to your partner as a way of showing remorse, no. I’m only saying, after you would have said it over in person, you can also do it in a text. That bit of emphasis could signify remorse.
PROFESS YOUR LOVE…AGAIN
There’s nothing wrong with adding a little reminder of how much you love them, and the good times you have had. It can do you mighty good.
PAY REGULAR VISITS
They say “out of sight, out of mind.” You don’t want them to forget you exist, you want forgiveness, so you cannot pay them regular visits as a way of reminding them they still man a lot to you.
PROMISE TO NEVER REPEAT THE MISTAKE
It’s possible you’ll do it again, but because you’re in dire need of your partner’s forgiveness, that doesn’t matter. All you want to do is show them you’re truly repented and different.
While you’re trying to get them to forgive you, do not forget to work on improving yourself. Grow yourself in whatever way you can. It will probably get them to realise they’re missing out on something.
TAKE THE BLAME
It’s the normal thing to do. When you’re wrong, you own up to it. That’s what being responsible and mature means. It’s what would also actually show you realise you’re wrong.
DO NOT LOSE YOUR COOL
Sometimes, you want to get mad from frustration if you’re begging for forgiveness, and they’re being obstinate about it. But you cannot, you have to stay calm because losing your cool would probably further strain relations.
GIVE THEM THEIR SPACE
People sometimes, need time to heal. Nothing happens immediately. If you hurt them deeply, that means it would probably take more time than expected for them to get over it, so understand that, and don’t rush them.